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  • In my travels through religion, I find that people cluster in predictable ways around EVERY religion. Most people just want to think they live in an orderly universe and can manipulate it with superficial piety. Other people really want to use religion to be better people (usually more compassionate), others want to use it to be worse (tribalistic), and the smallest number are actually looking for an experience of the divine.

    Though there is that commonality, there are some wild differences between religions. Like Christianity is very much based around faith in supernatural stuff. If you don’t believe, you’re not part of the Church and you are cast out because your doubt may infect others and thereby send them into Hell for eternity. I wish, as someone who doesn’t believe, that I could find a spiritual home, but I can’t find one within Christianity. But not all religions work that way.

    Good luck with your exploration (and your family stuff!












  • AI Genie: You have three wishes.

    Person: I wish for a million dollars!

    AI Genie: Granted!

    Person: Ok. Where is it?

    AI Genie: Oh, sorry, I didn’t grant your wish. Please ask again.

    Person: I wish for a million dollars!

    AI Genie: Granted!

    Person: These look like a few old rubles. They’re worthless!

    AI Genie: Yes, you did ask for a million dollars and I gave you worthless rubles. Please wish again and I will try to do better!

    Person: I wish for a million US dollars!

    AI Genie: Granted!

    Person: This is a million-dollar bill signed by George Washington. It’s not legal tender!

    AI Genie: I’m sorry, you are right. I should have understood you wanted to increase your net worth. Please wish again and I’ll get right.

    Person: I wish for a million US dollars to be deposited into my checking account!

    AI Genie: I’m sorry, you have already used all three of your wishes.






  • I’ve learned that systems serve themselves, first and always. There is no better lesson of that than Christianity. The historical Jesus was basically a radical hippie, but he was buried first by Paul and then the institution of the Church, which didn’t even feel the need to purge the story of the Pharisees or the Good Samaritan from the Bible, two stories which obviously call out the negative religious impulses the Church is founded on.

    Yes, emotions are there to be listened to. A big part of waking up is taking your feelings seriously instead of burying them or denying them or ignoring them. I fucking HATE Christian funerals because they spend almost all their time convincing themselves that God is Good and The Person is Happy in Heaven, and it’s absolutely a terrible way to deal with grief and maybe even anger. I went to a funeral for a woman who had been literally disemboweled by her mentally-ill son, and, yeah, you can imagine the questions about God that were not asked at the service.

    By ignoring your emotions, the risk is that you either become a zombie, miserably unhappy and not sure why, or you get completely overtaken by your shadow, the parts you are trying to deny (what happened to Anakin, and what happens to all those gay evangelists caught in bathroom stalls).

    I don’t know where you are on your spiritual journey, but I left Christianity to become an atheist and now I’m trying to build some spirituality back into my life to keep the suicidal nihilism at bay. Britt Hartley’s YouTube channel No Nonsense Spirituality has a lot of good ideas.

    I’m sorry you lost your mom.


  • Oh, there’s a Nickelodeon TV show called Avatar: The Last Airbender where people have telekinetic ability called bending, but limited to a single element (Earth, Air, Fire, Water). There’s an episode where a character is forced to bend the water inside someone’s blood to prevent her from killing people and it’s made out as a step towards evil, like a dark-sided Force power, whereas it’s really just one more way to use bending to force people to your will, just like bending a rock at their heads.

    Avatar has some impressive depth to it and the writing is impeccable; definitely and always a kid’s show first, but I discovered it as an adult so it has a lot to offer. Just make sure to watch the original animated series and not the Netflix live-action caricature (and not to be confused with Avatar: Dances with Wolves in Space).