absolute fact
Maybe she just wanted to know if it’s possible
Once I had a new washing machine delivered to me, except the delivery was to the curb. I lived under a roof in an old building with high ceilings, at what counted as 6th floor. And a teeny tiny elevator going up to 4th.
So I dragged it in the elevator, and then 4 flights of stairs. All alone, and even rejecting a neighbor’s offer of help.
You often save time by doing it your self. Mayby not on the one specific task, but in the long run. Because if you ask for, or accept an offer for help, it’s expected to return the favor at some point. So the time saved on one task, now has to be used at some other time on some unkown task (that might take even more time than you saved in the first place).
Also take into account, that it often involves socializing around the event, which is now doubled.
And as an introvert, I value my alone time like others value money. I constantly evaluate how to use less on things I don’t want or need.
Apart from the socializing time, the time to help the helper doesn’t accumulate as time spent on your end because the helper will help again speeding up another task of yours. In the long run the time saved from receiving help and the time spent from helping would balance out. The socializing time is lost and accumulates. With that said, there are tasks that are impossible or take significantly more than double when done alone compared to when done with a helper. That could very well make up for the lost socializing time. Now add specialization where you help in tasks that you’re good at and the helper does the same for you and those tasks end up done way faster than without help. And that’s why we invented division of labour, which allowed us to turn nature into useful stuff much faster than before. 😄
I don’t ask for help enough. Replaced a toilet yesterday and my back is complaining today.
I’m not afraid of asking for help when I’m not capable of doing it myself. But usually I would rather pay some professional to do it. That way I can complain if it’s not done correctly. That’s a bit harder if you had a friend do it for free.
If I think I just lack a bit of knowledge to do it myself, I do a bit of research and jump right into it. That way I learn new skills and become even more independent.
I once rented a truck and hauled my queen-size mattress and box-spring an hour away by myself so I didn’t have to talk to anyone
Haha, good one. I once managed to replace my refrigerator by myself. Carrying both the old and new one up and down five steps of stairs and across 15 meters (50 ft) of courtyard.
Now that’s dedication.
Although my back doesn’t like the sound of it
It wasn’t that bad actually. The new one was delivered safely secured in a cardbord box, so I could just corner walk it across the courtyard. Then tilt it towards the stairs and push it up. And for the old one, I flattened the box from the new one, and used it as a slider to get it down the stairs and then corner walked it as well across the courtyard where is was picked up for disposal.
And that’s why I always say “Work smarter, not with others”.
Often because doing what the image represents is easier than asking an extrovert and handling all the shit that comes with that.
Don’t want to inconvenience anyone
Many people would feel good about helping out. Keep that in mind. I try to think about it when offered help. Else I was always saying no, and it turns out it may also be a trauma response. My braing being used to doing things myself, not wanting to feel dependant, or -as it was said- bothering others (I am a people pleaser)
I don’t want to be inconvenienced.
What are you talking about? She’s got this.
Not only does she got this, she’s being extra efficient by moving two pieces of furniture at once!
It’s not even about efficiency. I suspect that this is easier on her back, because she doesn’t have to keep pace with someone who doesn’t coordinate with her and who makes sudden, unexpected moves that cause her to wrench her back. As someone who has lifted a lot of heavy things in his life, I always find it easier and less painful to move something on my own whenever possible.
“And always remember: Efficiency first!”
I just did this a couple of days ago to move a cedar chest. It works just fine.
Until you have to do across the grass.
Sounds relatable. Last time I moved I even had several people offer in advance to help but I ended up doing almost everything by myself because I just wanted to be able to do things at my own pace and make sure I was happy with where everything went.
I’d recommend having a furniture dolly and an upright trolley rather than relying on an office chair though, proper tools make the job much easier.
Leave me alone ok? I gotta talk about something with my therapist.
introvert <> anti-social
Anti-social doesn’t mean avoidant. Introversion makes you tired of dealing with people quicker and seek to be alone. Anti-social people tend to lack empathy and have a complete disregard for rules.
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This is brilliant. Now I need one that goes up stairs.
Most of them do, you just have to hit on girls outside of the hospital rehab, or at least stop targeting the ones in wheelchairs.
Modern version of the girl stuck in the window
PEBCAC
I don’t think anything is between couch and chair
Woo, I have that office chair too. It’s from IKEA and I really like it.
