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  • I think doors. Most people on Earth reside in a domicile, and many domiciles on Earth have doors. Far fewer people have vehicles and wheels for other purposes have limited use in environments with lots of inclines. I’m caught up in the proportion of housing which has doors versus other housing with doorways or otherwise no room separation.

    Edit: Come to think of it, most vehicles on the road have four wheels and four doors. Two door sedans are generally luxury and semi-trucks with many wheels and only two doors are far less common proportionally than standard passenger vehicles.





  • I can only hope this “coincidental” upswing of ethno-nationalism is an extinction burst as the old neo-liberal world order implodes upon itself. The European right wants to go back to the old ways, but I’m not sure the scale of production of state-of-the-art drone technology is in “Western” hands anymore or could possibly be. Hopefully sober voices prevail so we as a species on this planet don’t have to learn the hard way who is the best at mass killing nowadays.


  • The international order, which was based on rights and rules, no longer exists, and we have entered an era that is instead governed by the naked exercise of power. Germany must adapt and reenter the realm of hard power—undertaking large-scale military rearmament, overhauling its armed forces and intelligence services, and sustaining support for Ukraine for as long as necessary.

    This is a chilling article. I’m hearing the Königgrätzer Marsch as I’m reading.






  • No, it’s a lot worse than that . Your friend is into you at the same time as not being capable of being honest with himself. I’m not saying it’s necessarily the case here, but people get murdered in this situation even after being friends for years.

    There is plenty of potential here for you to get hurt very badly if you pursue him, or worse out him, while he is trying to appear totally straight for his community. Once again, you did nothing wrong and the signals are pretty clear even to read, but this form of homophobia is very, very dangerous to both of you in every way.

    Please don’t press him unless he comes out on his own, otherwise there is great potential for danger for both of you. It’s an awful situation and I hope you’re able to navigate it and go on to get everything you deserve from someone who’s available and safe.


  • This has everything to do with your friend and your status as a gay person, nothing to do with who you are. You can’t fix your friend no matter how much you may want to. Only he can come to terms with his own issues. It’s not fair that you are collatoral damage in his identity crisis, but it’s his crisis that you didn’t cause. You are only guilty of being a good enough friend to him that he felt comfortable exploring intimacy with you. Please believe me when I tell you the biggest issue you have now is the sunk cost fallacy. Again, it’s extremely unfair to you and it’s a shitty situation. Now that you know you can’t get what you need from him, you can either waste more effort on him or save your effort for someone who can reciprocate.



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    What would you be risking if you were honest? There’s a reason you believe you shouldn’t be authentic when you’re around others.

    When you are dealing with people or institutions which hold power over you, it is an exhausting obligation to put on the performance that they want. No getting around it unless you find a different situation.

    When you are with people who don’t hold power over you, masking is only a benefit if you are seeking to run confidence schemes. Unless you are seeking to deliberately defraud your peers, the best thing you can get from masking is that you will have to continue to perform the character they like and keep yourself suppressed to keep knowing them. If you are authentic around your peers, they will like or dislike you based on who you actually are, no acting required.

    If you are suddenly authentic around the people who are exhausting you because they need you to play the character, they will not react well. You may be afraid of that. I promise you that losing your ability to connect to others because you believe you must always suppress yourself should scare you much more. It is a good thing to lose people who require you to not be yourself.