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    14 hours ago

    Thanks for taking the time to write all this out! I haven’t been exposed to most of it but one of my non binary friends told me that it took forever and was a complicated mess to get a work email without their dead name (they go by their last name now, so ended up getting initials where the first name would go as a stopgap). I def. still saw their deadname pop up from place to place. And the high up supervisor, god bless him, tried and tried to get their name and pronouns right but he’d sometimes slip up if we was thinking hard about something else. But to his credit he fully committed to learning pronouns and names for everyone and really led by example.










  • The thing that helps more than anything else, for me at least, is to spend a lot of time in a community where everyone is invested in getting pronouns right – because it can be hard if you’re doing it all on your own, against the current, so to speak.

    Luckily for me my workplace has gradually become such a place, where we used to never volunteer our preferred genders, to now where the norm is to introduce yourself with your name and pronouns if you’re comfortable, put them on name-tags, and we all try to help each other remember people’s pronouns.