🌞 Alexander Daychilde 🌞

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  • It’s one of the things that most frustrates me about the Fediverse. Some users are incapable of nuance and see any slight against them as a sign that the other person is The Enemy.

    I’ve been a moderator (and am a moderator) many places and… that is true of most of them. Doesn’t matter how blatant the rule violation or how clearly the rule was stated, a lot of people take very personal offence. It’s one reason many mods in many places end up rather jaded and stop bothering to explain because it doesn’t help most of the time.

    I try my best to be patient first, because I’ve found that like 25% of the time or so I can at least get someone to understand that it wasn’t personal or anything like that. I’ve certainly had people in subreddits I’ve moderated as well on an open-source game forum I host/administer/moderate turn around and become good community members.

    But it is moderately rare, and these days after I’ve been patient and try to explain once, I go to zero tolerance quickly and just ban, mute, move on.

    It is a pervasive problem of anonymous or semi-anonymous internet. Generally a price worth paying considering alternatives (identity requirements), but it is a choice and a price.



  • I tend to agree with you, but I think it’s important to note:

    • Cops often but not always decide if they’re going to write you a ticket even before they talk to you.

    So in many cases, nothing you say or do will make a significant difference except if you say something they disagree with, it can make it worse. But sometimes, you can talk your way out of a ticket.

    The problem is: Every cop is different, and you don’t know who you’re dealing with until you’re already in it.

    • If you’re white cis male, you’re gonna have a better time on average than someone who is not one or more of those things

    As a white cis male, my experiences with cops has been about half alright and half mildly shitty. I bet you your average person of color would have a higher shitty time on average.

    • If you get arrested, you will have wanted to have shut up. But talking might prevent you from getting arrested in the first place

    And again, you don’t know until it’s too late. So it’s all a risk.

    • ACAB doesn’t mean literally every cop is all bad, all the time. It means the system is broken and needs to be fixed.

    Yeah, it’s a stupid acronym, but it’s what we got, suck it up and deal with it, or help fix thte system, or come up with a better one that takes off. Or you can waste time arguing about the acronym and not help, I guess. Up to you.


  • Instead of replying to a couple of comments in here that would make my comment sound like a personal attack, I will just say that I personally find those that can’t tell the difference between legit non-work links suspicious or not are generally lacking in skills.

    If I get a link to a survey site that otherwise sounds like it might be legit, it’s usually not difficult to google up the domain or company and see if it looks legit. And you can always check with your manager. If they say it’s legit and it turns out not to be legit, you can point to them. And if that fails “you should know better”, then you ask what your company wants you to do and follow those guidelines.

    My comment is mostly a reaction to those that think it’s clever to report all legit third-party emails that are clearly legit as phishing. I’m not saying there can’t even be doubts - not at all. It’s a complex topic and we’re all talking generally generic here, not specific examples anyway, so it’s all generalizzations. i.e. don’t take my arguments TOO seriously… heh