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This is way too true. Also switches are the cruelest doms (in the best way)
not me
i have no idea how to be cruel in an enjoyable hot way
when dominating, i am quite soft
I can be either, depending on what the sub wants tbh. I just get off on other people getting as much pleasure as they can have.
I love a good soft Dom myself but I can also be a pain slut depending on where I’m at in my cycle, so I understand the appeal of both. Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .
All I’m interested in when I dom is seeing somebody whimper and beg for me, by any means.
Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .
OwO
need need need need need need
Right?? It’s the bessst ugh. I’m a sucker for the “you’re a disgrace and I don’t know why I want you so badly” kind of trope haha, like someone is struggling to reconcile why they’re so attracted to such a loser 🤭
need to be someones perfect little puppy and be someones pathetic shameful addiction
ig the balance is to be different with different partners :3
Shameful addiction is a phrase that perks my Lil ears up hahaha
OwO
See now, as an actual switch… or… maybe just literally me (?)… I just actually do not enjoy verbally degrading people, makes me feel disgusted with myself.
I prefer simply demonstrating, practically, with controlled force, that you are at my mercy.
… you might be be able to mind game me out of that… but I would simply enjoy that.
Or you might be able to physically out do me, which I would also enjoy.
Not insults though. Genuine turn off for me, giving them or recieving them. Taunts? Dares? Absolutely. Degradation? … find another switch-dom.
Now… learning what you like, and withholding it from you? That I can do.
But… specifically punishing someone with something they do consent to, but causes them genuine discomfort, significant pain or panic?
Can’t do it. Too much of genuinely nice person, or something.
That makes total sense! To be fair I’d only do degradation with the most trusted of partners because it needs to come from someone of whose opinion of me i am well aware. Most of the time I’m just a competitive brat hahaha
Really love a switchy physical power dynamic where power shifts between both partners.
The mind games and degradation are for a very specific type of itch, however (hint: it’s trauma).
Oh I’m not even trying to judge you or anything, you don’t need to justify anything to me, I just… I am only mean to people I genuinely dislike or hate or despise in some way, or have done something severe, of the same description.
To me that seems like the antithesis of … love or just enjoying another person’s body… frankly it would make me feel like a rapist, to be intentionally viciously cruel.
Had … a few people in my life ask for that, and I just actually couldn’t do it… fucking broke down crying, actually.
I don’t know how to pretend to be… viciously, overwhelmingly cruel. I only know how to actually be that way, and I never want to be that way.
… i guess I’m saying I’m a method actor, in bed … ?
I can only hope that Banana and I are… currently demonstrating at least one way of going about this.
Check the rest of this comment chain.
… you rang?
🤭
… did I give you permission to giggle?
Here, I’ll make you giggle.
arm locks you, spins you half around, uses my shin to press on the back of one of your knees, takes you to your knees, and tickles you, not stopping for a good solid 3 minutes
Have we learned our lesson?
(i am of course presuming we’ve already set up safe words here)
Haha oh no I am feeling particularly bratty 😅
I have lived no lesson so long as I can still breathe
… Well, then it sounds like you need to be not able to breathe very well.
Maybe by stuffing your mouth full of… a lesson, that will discipline you.
And, you are already on your knees.
… what say you?
🤭
… tsk tsk.
You still don’t have permission to giggle.
pivots the rear arm lock to take you down to your back, as I move from behind you, to crawling/mounting over top of you. My forearm now pins your locked arm to ground, i am straddling your waist
… It’s simple.
You just have to ask permission.
Let’s see if you can.
commence passionate liplock and tongue jousting
So being a top is basically like being a D&D DM then?
It’s the noble task. Know the rules, make the adventure and give them the imaginary time of their lives, so you can imagine being among them.
(And you kinda are tbh, those skeletons and goblins are nothing but a boogieman disguise for the unseen member of the gang).
… i’d say a dnd dm would be more like directing a gangbang porno.
I’m almost certain I’m just going to die alone. There is no top. There is no bottom. There is just forward.
It’s still good to know what you’d want really, even if you don’t believe it will ever happen
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Agreed. A sub that… basically doesn’t communicate, at all?
Honestly, infuriating, genuinely not enjoyable, at least to me personally.
There may be a few people who want to fuck an actual ‘not a person’ slave… not me.
But also… you can actually punish that.
Denial.
If you … require… communication… do not reward the lack of it.
If you just let them get away with their poor behavior… well you’re not topping/domming very well, now are you?
At that point you’re basically a service top, who is also expected to read minds.
There are different … preferences and styles here, people define these terms somewhat differently… not trying to broadly knock any of them, but… yeah you’re not really in control, if you’re the one doing all the physical and mental work, now are you? That’s at least how I see it.
Actually require them to answer questions with more complex answers than ‘yes/no’, otherwise, literally sit there and twiddle your thumbs.
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… maybe I can say… I am a more demanding/crueller/strict dom than you, when I am in dom ‘mode’?
But it also sounds like you’re doing this at least semi-professionally, and have thus… adjusted to market demands, essentially?
I suppose that would make me an amateur or hobbyist, in comparison.
Tie them up in front of a computer until they’ve written a 3 page essay giving constructive feedback about their experience thus far.
Bonus points if a shock collar is around their leg setting off whenever they make a typo.
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I would have to use my safeword.
I feel this sooooo hard
I need all the information on how what I am doing is being received, thank you
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I’ve been told I’m the last actual top.
I’ve had numerous surgeries on my booty, its not a place anyone is allowed to go for good reason. Already have enough fucking issues down there.
Anyway, it would be nice to meet a bottom who is okay with this Shrek-looking motherfucker someday.
I dub thee The Booty Shreker
I bet you’re Shrexy 😘
if only.
edit: I hate my own brain, I wish compliments didn’t always make me feel worse.
Yeah I’m sorry about that. My partner has a similar bully for a brain – compliments don’t work for them either. Love 💜
It’s not your fault, no way you could have known, thank you for understanding though.
Do you top because you want to top, or because you have to? Like if all the booty complications didn’t exist, what would you want the most?
Fair question, I also want to top, but I’ve also run across women so beautiful that I’d turn to bottoming just to be with them.
Edit: to be clear I am really just lonely and desperate more than anything
Bottoming doesn’t require anal, btw. There are many, many ways to be submissive.
Oh i think we’re talking two different bottoms here, I am not speaking dom/sub bottom. I don’t really dig the dynamic, I’m a cuddler who likes to make people feel good, more of a hedonist than anything.
Same, tho I don’t think of the typical stuff when the topic of dom and sub come up. That is making ppl feel good as far as I’m concerned, its why as much of a bottom as I am, I like to top as well. I wanna make ppl feel good :3
That makes sense, I’m a woman so most of the bottoming im familiar with is dom/sub, sorry! Hahaha
No worries whatsoever 😄
Third option: Power Bottom
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Any bottoms out there who do more than starfish wya?!
I’ll die a bottom >:)
This is kind of the opposite for me.
When I was younger I used to switch, but really always preferred being a bottom.
Nowadays I just wanna be a sub; If someone doesn’t like that I can find another woman who will.
I’m actively transforming as we speak
I feel seen. I rarely switch and if I do, I know there are some thing that I like and try on my partner and I know that gets them going because it does for me (well I’m mostly right about that, at least to the 2 sexual partners I’ve ever had.).
Never met someone who is fully top though and couldn’t experience it for now.
im second- or think im second. i wanna be second. i wanna make others feel good — cuz thats a really special feeling.
edit: ALSO!!! hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm i wonder if this relates to someone hHmMMMMMmMmmmMm… that likely wasnt intentioned (I don’t mean myself)
No, it kinda was intentional
whaaaat well now I’m wondering who u were addressing with this cuz I dont think we are thinking of the same person… maybe.
you aren’t talking about Orange, are you?..
Yes, it does relate to orange, but not entirely. They’re a dom at heart who could only really sub for someone stronger than them, but still they still desire to be dominated.
Also, I’m happy you admit that orange is a specific person :3
oh ummmm… I did admit it in matrix chat, they were there too and even, completely coincidentally said, that if they at some point should show up in a comic, theyd wanna be rainbow colored. so i… didnt want to make the connection too obvious and stayed vaguer about the whole thing. thats also why I leaned in so hard about Lilacs sadness, cuz if the connection were clearer… well that would sound like I was being hurt, which is false… I’m overlapping, yesyes.
kinda me :3
except that i dont do it the way i wanna recieve it i do it the way the one recieving wants
i just wanna make my partners happy >w<
im a subservient people-pleasing puppy :3
you either die a child or grow old enough to treat your child the way you would have liked to be treated… if u feel like it. I know many peeps here hate children.
I’m assuming the word is supposed to be peeps and not pedos. I hope you don’t know many pedos.
yes, i meant like ones literal children, as in, you are a parent.
if I knew pedos, I wouldnt mind much, maybe try and get them on a better path with things or help them find help.
EIDT: whoops, yea ur right, it really said “peeos”, fair, thats my bad. fixed it, thanks for pointing it out ~
Your cat’s arm looks like a dick.
Yes, I’m the same person who saw the dick and commented last time (different account).
No, don’t change your pfp please. It’s too funny.
😂 I do remember you telling me that before. I’m glad I can bring you joy by thinking about dicks when you see me.
I topped from below. Partners told me what they wanted done to them, and I did it to them.
We called it negotiation but I knew what it really was.
