• LazyBaby@lemmy.zipEnglish
    9·
    2 hours ago

    I really relate to this comic. I didn’t like being a child that much, and I feel alienated a lot on the internet by people constantly wishing they could go back to having no responsibilities. I really, really like being able to control my own destiny and decide what I wanna do, even though it comes with increased pressures and responsibilities.

  • HugeNerd
    21·
    4 hours ago

    Ahhh delusion is a wonderful thing! It’s how we end up with 50+ people racing motorcycles into medians…

  • WizardOfFrobozz
    8·
    8 hours ago

    ITT: a bunch of “miserable” people who are way too comfortable and happy with their lives to fight back against what they claim is making them so (performatively) “miserable”

  • Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works
    6·
    7 hours ago

    My 30s might have been more awesome if I hadn’t reset my life/career every 4-5 years. I’d have been super bored and miserable in a different way if I’d stayed the course, but I’d have more money to waste on synthesizers in my big empty house, I guess.

  • Xerxos@lemmy.ml
    71·
    9 hours ago

    Well, that really varies from person to person, doesn’t it?

    My 30s were worse than my 20s.

    Having to work full-time sucks.

    It might be different for people who love their job or for those who are rich enough not to worry about work at all, but for me, the time when I had to work full-time was more or less the end of the ‘good times’.

    • tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
      412·
      10 hours ago

      I remember my 30th birthday well, I suddenly grew a six pack and backflipped onto a motorbike mounted onto a jetski and then moonwalked the 100m race faster than Jamiroquai on stilts

  • GhostFace@lemmy.today
    20·
    13 hours ago

    Midtwenties and it feels over in a lot of ways. The majority of friends I’ve made growing up or in college are gone. People have spread out and started focusing on their own lives. Even people that I only ever knew online have began moving on.

    In a lot of ways this has been fine because I’ve just turned inward and started focusing on myself too, started being selfish about what I want. I miss seeing a lot of my friends in person rather than random texts or seeing their stories on snap.

    It’s very confusing at times because I enjoy being able to do whatever I want when I want without consulting anyone but I also miss having people to do things with.

    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.mlEnglish
      19·
      11 hours ago

      Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven’t seen in years. Maybe never again.

      The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.

    • bookie@quokk.auEnglish
      6·
      10 hours ago

      It’s hard because there seems to be no place to hang out and meet people either. Not for a date, just to chill and make friends.

      • greedytacothief@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        6·
        8 hours ago

        Join a club! Having a group of people you see every week that are happy you’re there is what got me out of my worst depression. I’m in a run club and organize a mountain bike club, but if that’s not your speed there’s lots of others. An improv club/class will probably give you incredible social skills. But there’s roleplay clubs, book clubs, bowling/league night, kickball, knitting, and probably a bunch I can’t think of.

      • SpacetimeMachine@lemmy.world
        8·
        9 hours ago

        One of the last true 3rd places I’ve found is dog parks. If you go consistently at the same time each day you’ll be seeing a lot of the same people, who generally are down to chat. You can talk about their dog to break the ice, and I doubt people would even mind if you don’t have a dog.

      • mrgoosmoosEnglish
        4·
        8 hours ago

        seconding what the other person said. just go hang out in public places, preferably ones where you can do something and have a natural reason to approach people.

        it isn’t going to happen immediately. but eventually you will strike up conversations with people, and some of those will be good conversations, and some of those will be with people you like, and some of those will be with people who like you. and then you gotta actually get their contact info or plan to meet up again, maybe doing other things.

  • huey_m@piefed.socialEnglish
    16·
    15 hours ago

    My bet on why people don’t identify with that anymore is shifting social expectations and economy leading to having kids way later than in their day.

    Which… I love my kids, wouldn’t trade 'em for anything. But they can definitely make you feel old both by just watching them age and the extra responsibility reducing the freedom/spontaneity you might have had more of earlier in your youth. If you had kids in your early 20s, this starts earlier. If you don’t start until your 30s, you’re probably already starting to settle a bit anyway just from being more established in a career and such.

    I’d also be curious to know rates of messing around with harder drugs and drinking and such. My sense is those have gone down, and that kind of thing can be hard on your body.

    Just spit balling here.

    • Dozzi92@lemmy.world
      4·
      3 hours ago

      I like to think I did my 20s right, if that means anything. Partied often, built my career, worked on my established, longstanding friendships. I lived a bit wildly, but I also think that I gradually wound those things down. I have been in my career since I was 20, but in my mid-20s, my friends would show up to my jobs at night, I’d change out of my suit in the bathroom, and we’d all take a train into Manhattan, on a Tuesday or Wednesday. It’s something I couldn’t even consider. Our nights started at 1030, 11. Now, that’s essentially when they end for me.

      I’m now in as late as your 30s get, have kids, and that lifestyle is a very distant past, which I’m happy about. I have friends who still like to live it, and that’s cool. I’ll hang out with them, but I also have no problem tapping out early, and they also don’t care that I do. We’re all past the point of “uno mas,” which is funny because it’s been the name of our group chat for the past 15 years, and it’s okay. I had fun, it’s no longer what I want to do for fun, and that’s cool with me and everyone.

      It’s nice to all grow to a point where peer pressure has seemed to finally met it’s demise, although I do always say peer pressure is a great motivator of youth, and I wouldn’t change my youth for a second, because my present is great.