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Cake day: July 28th, 2023

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  • If you’re my manager and I really like you enough to actually want to help out it’s because of 4 main things:

    1. I’m compensated appropriately
    2. I know my extra help will be appreciated and include extra compensation
    3. This isnt a regular occurrence and the position isnt chronically short-staffed
    4. You bust your ass to make sure things get done before you try to pass the work on to someone else.

    Without those 4 things I don’t care how cool of a person you are or how great your personality is, you’re a shit manager and you’re doing a shit job and I’m not going to pick up your slack.


  • I’m not even sure which position you’re trying to argue with your comment? Are you saying that masking/trying to raw-dog autistic traits is equivalent to ‘just dealing with it’ when the temperature is a little uncomfortable? Because that’s not at all empathetic or tolerant. For someone with extreme sensory issues or hyper-stimulation brought on by loud noises or eye contact or social anxiety because you literally do not understand the unwritten rules for interaction that most people take for granted, it’s absolutely not the same level of discomfort as having to put on a sweater because the restaurant is a little too cold, and that’s super reductive. Autistic people also don’t own you shit and should definitely not be required to interact with you in anyway, let alone to your standards. Our society does have the ability to accomodate or avoid alot of interactions but if you are in a situation where an autistic individual is forced to interact with you for whatever reason, expecting them to just suck it up because “we all have to deal with some stuff” is pretty fucked.

    If that’s not what you’re trying to say then you need to organize your thoughts better because it’s not at all clear if you’re saying the autistic person should suck it up, or if you’re saying the NT person should just live with someone not making eye contact. It also does absolutely have to do with position on the spectrum. Yes two autistic people may react completely differently to the same level of discomfort to specific stimuli, just like two people with differing pain tolerances may react differently to the same amount of pain, but there is definitely also a level of intensity involved, not just differing levels of tolerance. Like those people with hyperalgesia. To them a paper cut may be agony, you can’t just tell them ‘oh it’s just a paper cut, I’ve had one and it’s fine’ when they’re literally experiencing the equivalent pain response to you getting your flesh melted off. That’s nothing to do with mental fortitude or tolerance to discomfort, their body is physically having an extremely heightened reaction that they can’t just ‘get over’.






  • You’re right that there hasn’t ever been concrete proof of anything paranormal, and I’m not a believer, although I like to keep a healthy agnosticism and think it’s unbelievably arrogant to assume that we know even a fraction of everything that’s possible in this world. With that said, it’s totally disingenuous to say ‘every time these things have been studied it’s just physics’, because while there’s tons of examples where it has turned out to be physics, there’s also tons of phenomena that have been studied, and while no concrete paranormal proof has been found, no physical explanation has ever been found either. There’s tons of unexplained mysteries and phenomena that haven’t been conclusively disproven or debunked.


  • emeralddawn45@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoTrans Memes@lemmy.blahaj.zoneWeird that it happened twice
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    This is me just riffing off of trans memes that I’ve seen online, and the fact that apparently I have a very (egg) state of mind naturally, but it seems to me that trans people really resonate with games that are all about overcoming extreme challenges, in which the player character gradually builds more experience and capabilities and undergoes a transformation of sorts in which you unlock capabilities that don’t necessarily make the game easier, but increase the scope of what you’re capable of and gives you more tools to work with. Also stories that deal with themes of loneliness, belonging, finding your place in the world, building up allies who can aid you in your struggle. Games like Celeste and silksong are kind of like riffs on the hero’s Journey, where the main character becomes who they were always meant to be through a long struggle and a process that’s a combination of determination, trial and error, and fate.




  • I’m not sure if I’ll be able to either. I’ve had to take a long break from weed products for the last little while because they started making me very physically uncomfortable. Most of the times I’ve tried recently I’ve had a rapid heart rate and a tight feeling in my stomach/abdomen, and it’s just not as enjoyable as it used to be, and didn’t seem worth spending money on if I don’t even know whether im going to enjoy the experience anymore. I’m growing a high CBD and a high CBG strains though, so I’m hoping I’ll be able to find some way to recapture the magic again. If not, at least I’ve had fun growing them and I’ll get to pass on their products to my friends and loved ones.