Ask Beastly: My Girlfriend Won’t Play With My Butt

This week: Why you should have sex before marriage, a guy needs butt love, and how to grow your hole.

Ask Beastly: Dive

This week: face fisting, bottoming in nature, and the real health risks of eating ass and how to prevent them.

Ask Beastly: Shame, Shame

This week: How does sex happen on a gay cruise? Why does wild sex make us feel shame? And much more.

Feedback: Leather Memories

New feedback post, because German class is hard. I reply to notes from readers, soul brothers, and someone I fisted at MAL.

Ask Beastly: Bathhouse Rules

This week: What are bathhouse rules? Do daddies need aftercare? And why are gay bars so defeating sometimes?

Ask Beastly: Sex Breaks

This week: my final bug-chasing question (please), dealing with PrEP shame, and taking a sex break.

Feedback: Pussy

Some nice feedback about my book, my butthole, and my ex-boyfriend.

Ask Beastly: A Woman Rides the Beast

This week: all bodies need pleasure, a straight man needs pegging, and a fist bottom needs help.

Ask Beastly: What You Should Know About Poppers

This week: how to find a gay-friendly doctor, and how to build a sex life without poppers.

Ask Beastly: LDR

This week: a straight couple wants to do long-distance, someone has a tickle fetish, and another is a boy.

Ask Beastly: The Party Never Dies

My take on Steamworks Chicago, hooking up in NYC, and the best cruising bars in the world.

Ask Beastly: Big Life Question

This week: being gay and Deaf or hard of hearing, writing about what you love, and not giving up.

Ask Beastly: The Self Dance

This week: the relationships we keep — with ourselves, our minds, our partners, our lovers, and our butts.

Ask Beastly: Don’t Be a Kink Tourist

This week: brutal body image issues, digital kink, and being a kink tourist.

Ask Beastly: How to Top

This week: treating ED, managing anxiety, and fucking hole.

Ask Beastly: Thank you, Satan!

One reader is probably bisexual, another is gay, and another has to use condoms because of his health.

Ask Beastly: Why We Ask for Pronouns

My advice for dealing with a neurodivergent mind, a bisexual fiancee, and pronoun culture.

Ask Beastly: This Is for Your Family

This week: bad relatives, slutty roommates, and how to be an ally.

Ask Beastly: Why Porn Is Good

This week: falling for a sex worker, enema play, and having a better relationship with porn.

Ask Beastly: The Fisters and Their Friends

This week: four fisting questions answered.

Ask Beastly: City Boy

One reader needs virgin advice, another needs douching help, and another needs to move.

Ask Beastly: How to Live in a Wonderful World of Drugs

This week: three questions about drug use and harm reduction.

Ask Beastly: Just Like Riding a Bicycle

One reader wants to explore lady love while keeping her husband. Another needs a confidence boost.

Ask Beastly: Tristesse

One reader needs good lube, another gets post-sex depression, and another asks about getting too loose — again.

Feedback: Shame Is Cancelled

Reader feedback and a Twitter discussion on cancel culture.

Ask Beastly: Fuck Your Way to Confidence

What to do when you’re feeling un-fuckable.

Ask Beastly: Future Fist Pig

How to prepare your butt for fisting.

Ask Beastly: Wet and Messy

This week: popping your butt cherry, WAM fetish, and the problems with wearing anything 24/7.

Ask Beastly: Welcome to Kink

This week: kink and past trauma, and getting into kink as a beginner.

You Have to Hear It

A post about my writing process.

Feedback: Lost Souls

Another feedback post! I respond to ten messages from readers — no questions, just stories and thoughts.

Ask Beastly: Hard

This week: an older gay man feels disconnected from gay culture, and another is exploring ways to treat E.D.

Ask Beastly: The Other Man

A reader’s husband cheated and now he wants to fuck the other guy.

Ask Beastly: Bodies Are Hard Things to Live In

This week: HIV disclosure, and how I cope with body dysmorphia.

Ask Beastly: Top Trouble

This week: the struggle of being a fem top, and masturbating while at work.

Ask Beastly: Head Games

This week: voyeurism, talking to your partner about an open relationship, and how to improve your oral skills.

Welcome to Life, You Dirty Book

It’s here.

Ask Beastly: We Belong

A nonbinary reader is struggling with gay hookup apps.

Ask Beastly: The Joy of Group Sex

This week: how to plan a sex group, and managing anxiety at a sex party.

Ask Beastly: Hey Sucker

How to train yourself to be an oral sex god.

Ask Beastly: Get Gross

This week: a spit fetish, a creamy pussy, a scat fetish, and how to (allegedly) make cum taste great.

Feedback: Happiness Only Real When Shared

I’m responding to more reader feedback.

A Talk Between Friends on Love

I’m sharing a chat I had with a friend about his relationship and why it’s not working.

Ask Beastly: How Poly Works

My advice on communication strategies and more for a polyamorous relationship.

Ask Beastly: The Undervalued, Old School Orange Hanky

In a culture of specific labels and fetishes, how do you say you’re game for everything?

Ask Beastly: How to Be Brave

Three readers want to explore wild sex and need help finding the courage.

Ask Beastly: Size Queen

This week: the BBC myth has racist roots, plus some practical advice on gags.

Ask Beastly: Working Boy

Sex work is not sex trafficking — explained by sex work activist Maggie Mayhem.

Third Year Love

This week: 30 lessons I’ve learned from being in a great open relationship.

Ask Beastly: What Goes on a Dating App

This week: what personal details belong on dating and hookup apps?

Ask Beastly: How to Cheat With Permission

A reader loves his partner but can’t stop cheating.

21 Reasons To Buy My Slutty Book

My upcoming book, MY LOVE IS A BEAST, hits shelves this October.

Ask Beastly: How To Fuck Your Friends

My advice on navigating casual sex friendships.

Ask Beastly: Anger Management

This week: healing from the trauma of the closet.

Ask Beastly: Why We Love Drugs

This week: dealing with bottom shame, and the close relationship between drugs and wild sex.

Ask Beastly: Butt Stuff

This week: anal fissures, hemorrhoids, and prolapses.

Ask Beastly: XXL

Advice for two XXL tops trying to date each other, and advice for a guy with a smaller cock.

I’m Going Hunting

Here’s my personal ad.

Ask Beastly: Toxic

An HIV-positive reader considers stopping his meds to “gift” HIV to his bug-chaser buddies.

Ask Beastly: Take You to the Candy Shop

A reader wants to stick hard candy up their butt.

Ask Beastly: Gay Men Rarely Say Goodbye Forever

A reader knows it’s time to break up. Should it be a “soft” breakup or total separation?

Ask Beastly: Get PrEPared

The difference between PEP and PrEP — two ways to protect yourself from HIV.

Ask Beastly: For Gay Men, Straight Men Are a Kink

It’s fine to have crushes, but those straight boys will never love you back.

Ask Beastly: How to Reject Your Faith

My advice for managing the harm and trauma of Christianity.

Ask Beastly: 19

My advice for a queer teen.

Ask Beastly: How To Find a Fuck Buddy

Tell him what you want. What you really, really want.

Ask Beastly: How to Gape a Butthole

Everyone loves big, puffy donuts.

Ask Beastly: When to Leave

A reader knows it’s time for a divorce. But when? How?

Ask Beastly: Sex Addict

A reader’s new boyfriend claims to be a sex addict.

Ask Beastly: Gay and Christian

Two questions from gay Christians living in the closet.

Ask Beastly: Loosen Up

Let’s dispel a common myth about the butt.

Ask Beastly: Trans Men Belong in Gay Spaces

My advice for a transmasculine reader on playing in gay spaces — with help from Luke Hudson.

Ask Beastly: How to Tell Your Parents About Escorting

If you do sex work, your parents will find out. Promise.

Ask Beastly: Can You Get HIV Twice?

A gay couple — both HIV-positive and undetectable — is worried about HIV “superinfection.”

Feedback: Thanks for the Love Notes

I get a lot of emails that aren’t questions — messages of feedback, thanks, and more. I decided to respond to some of them.

Ask Beastly: How to Become a Pup

This week: tickle fetish, spanking, and how to get into the pup scene.

Ask Beastly: When Your Sex Life Feels Over

Medical issues can profoundly change your sex life, but they never have to end it.

Ask Beastly: Monogamy Isn’t Good Enough

A reader understands non-monogamy but can’t get past his feelings of jealousy.

Ask Beastly: No One Belongs to You

This week: a reader wants to control his boyfriend.

Ask Beastly: Pierced

A reader wants a dick piercing.

Ask Beastly: When Everything’s Great Except the Sex

A reader wants to date his ex again, but the sex needs some work.

Ask Beastly: Getting Started

A reader is starting a relationship with someone who has a lot more sexual experience.

Ask Beastly: Why Some HIV-Positive People Don’t Tell

A reader is HIV-positive, undetectable, and going to a sex party.

Not a Top, Bottom, or Vers. Are You a Side?

Some queer men just don’t enjoy anal sex. That’s okay.

Ask Beastly: Why Condoms Suck

The best alternatives to condoms.

Ask Beastly: You Can’t Change Your Partner

A reader wishes his boyfriend would spend more time in the gym.

Ask Beastly: When It’s Time To Move On

Toss him in the discard pile, sweetie.

Ask Beastly: The Dealbreakers

This week: the three signs of a doomed relationship.

Ask Beastly: How to Have Smarter, Better Bareback Sex

This week: some risk-reduction advice for a sex pig.

Beastly Reviews: The Best Films of 2017

This may be my last film post, so I’ll go out with a bang.

Ask Beastly: Bottoming Tips

This week: how to train your tight hole for harder bottoming.

Ask Beastly: How to Gag Him

A reader wants to gag his hookups. How to talk about this?

Ask Beastly: How to Find Confidence

A reader has no sex experience and no confidence. Here’s my advice.

Ask Beastly: Scat

A reader wants to get dirty.

Ask Beatly: Bug-Chasing

I answer a reader’s questions about bug-chasing — the tabooed fetish of seeking HIV.

Ask Beastly: How to Write About Sex

A reader wants to start their own sex blog. Here’s my advice.

Ask Beastly: Tips for Being a Cum Dump

My favorite sport.

Ask Beastly: What the First Time Really Feels Like

A gay sex virgin wants his first time to happen like porn. It won’t.

Ask Beastly: 10 Tips for Throuples

My advice to a gay couple interested in dating a third guy.

Ask Beastly: How to Heal After a Breakup

How long does it take after a bad breakup to feel ready to date again?

A Message for Future Gay Men

A message, a warning, a call-to-arms.

Ask Beastly: The Straight Truth

A straight white man wants to submit to a black gay dominant. Here’s my advice.

Ask Beastly: How to Douche Like a Champion

My regimen, explained.

Love Letter to Forty-Nine Dancers

June 12, 2016

How to Do Drugs

Harm reduction saves lives.

My Breakup, My Body, Everything Hurts

This is painful.

Beastly Reviews: The Best Films of 2015

I’m doing my own awards show.

What Happened at Folsom 2015

I have to tell this sex story.

Why I Stand With Rentboy

The anti-gay backlash has begun.

What Love Won

On June 26, 2015, we became legal. I have mixed feelings about it.

The Sacred Heart of Puppy Play

Why I need it.

Beastly Reviews: Fifty Shades of Grey

Beginner kink for straight people.

Going Down

I brought a man home to meet my parents for the first time.

Leave My Boy Alone

In defence of the Devil.

Depression Is a Beast

My advice on staying here.

12 Things I Have Learned About Love

I edit and update this list every year or so as my love life evolves.

Antichrist

Join me.

30 Words Every Gay Man Should Know

Time for some vocabulary.

I’m Coming Out

I want the world to know.