I'm always trying different things to help encourage my kids to be obedient and kind. We too often have problems with both of them. I started a smiley chart with Tyler and then added it for Landon and Abby. We used the actual charts for a while, then eventually just started talking at the end of the day about if they earned all of their smileys or not.
When the kids earn all of their smileys, they get a sticker on a sticker chart. After finishing a row of 10 stickers, they earn a certificate for things like: 30 minutes of extra game time on a non-game day, skip chores for one day, 30 minutes with Mom doing an activity of your choice, sleep in Mom and Dad's room, stay up an extra 30 minutes past bedtime, choose a place to go out to lunch. Landon really likes to stay up late on weekends when Nun is watching a game he wants to watch. Both of the boys love extra game time. All of them like to skip chores. It's been sticking around longer than most of our behavior things have in the past.
