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Removed Comment Might be bottom dysphoria if ur pre-op by алсааас [she/her] reason: Transmed
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Banned whoisearth @lemmy.ca from the community reason: transphobe
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Banned the_crotch @sh.itjust.works from the community reason: History of gatekeeping, trolling and transphobia
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Removed Comment Oh my bad didnt see you were a girl sorry for calling you "bro" by Rare @thelemmy.club reason: Offtopic
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Removed Comment Bro follow my twitch at twitch.tv/clamshelled
Im desperate but 2 followers sounds nice ya know bro by Rare @thelemmy.club reason: Offtopic
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Appointed Jorunn (she/her) @lemmy.blahaj.zone as a mod to the community 2 months ago mod
Locked Post Why some trans women defend men so much? 3 months ago mod
Removed Comment This might sound harsh, but I say it with as much love and support as possible from a stranger on Lemmy.
You need to get your head out of your ass. A quick fly-over of your post/comment history show a self-absorded, self-victimizing egoistic child. You do not take responsibility for your mistakes, and instead blame your neuro-divergence, and/or gender identity troubles for your shortcomings.
In my experience, people who have absolutely no one are directly responsible for their situation and have been pushing people away for years. Depression will do that to some. I'll tell you a secret tho... The people who love you will always find a way to forgive when faced with someone who truly wants to be forgiven. Love and close relationships are hard work and demand humility, and vulnerability.
Trying to blame your neglectful childhood for being an inconsiderate roommate is just childish. Just get the fuck up, and respect the fact that you are living with other people. No therapist is going to magically turn you into a decent cohabitant.
Therapy isn't going to help you if you constantly lie to yourself. Meds without good therapy is only going to delay, slow the mental decay, but will not solve it. There is so much that should be done by you before spending thousands of dollars.
You have a car, and some money. You have access to mental health care. You are already doing better than hundreds of millions of people!
You might have lost a roof, but the situation you were in sounds very unhealthy. What was so important about it?
I think you need to ask yourself what is it you truly want. Then you will be able to start thinking about what you can actually do in order to get there.
Edit: Please, understand that this is coming from a place of love, and that I am not aware of your whole situation. I just saw that you are also physically limited, and so might have been a bit too harsh. If you would like to talk, please DM me !
by TediousLength @lemmy.ca reason: Deleted by mod: That crosses a line
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Removed Post It takes balls to be a trans woman - me reason: Not the community for this
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Banned WhyDoYouThinkThat @lemmy.world from the community reason: bot
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Removed Post *Permanently Deleted* reason: Bigoted content, language from transphobic communities, misinformation, disrupting the safety of the space for transfeminine people
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Removed Comment *Permanently Deleted* by meowcatgirl @lemmy.ca deleted by creator reason: link to 4tran4
3 months ago mod
Banned Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone from the community reason: Disrupting the safety of the space for trans people
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Removed Comment Back that up with facts and figures. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: misinformation regarding hrt
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Removed Comment I feel like I am taking crazy pills. The standards of care for trans youth are clear. Minors should not be on HRT.
Puberty blockers, social transition, mental health support. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: misinformation regarding hrt
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Removed Comment A young person who has never had HRT before should probably not do it DIY to begin. Please don’t just go out and do it. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
3 months ago mod
Removed Comment Not for everyone. Let the professionals help the youth navigate through the experience. If they deem it necessary, then they should be the ones recommending HRT. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
3 months ago mod
Removed Comment In what way could this possibly be harmful? by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
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Removed Comment Back that up with data. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
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Removed Comment Puberty blockers, social transition (name, hair, clothes, etc), as well as a lot of support is what the professionals recommend. There are studies that back this stuff up, that are pretty easy to find via google.
Once they become legally an adult at 18, then depending upon where they live, they might be able to get informed consent to start them on their journey with hormones. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
3 months ago mod
Removed Comment Pedantry. I will clarify (just for you): Under 18’s should not be on hormone replacement therapy. Better? by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
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Removed Comment Australia has informed consent available for HRT. Just gotta be 18. You really need to wait. Under 18’s should not be on hormones anyway. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
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Removed Comment Yes. Kids should not be on HRT. This is not a controversial take. It is based in science. Read the studies. There are standards of care. Reading up on it does not replace involving medical experts. by Jessica @lemmy.blahaj.zone reason: false information
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Banned Bazell @lemmy.zip from the community reason: upvoted transphobic comment "teach kids to change gears not genders"
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Banned OwOarchist @pawb.social from the community reason: Encouraging suicidal poster to suicide
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Banned DavidDoesLemmy @aussie.zone from the community reason: Transphobia
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Removed Comment Buy, and use, a lint roller jfc. Holy fucking shit, people will post anything on the internet nowdays. Do you people have any self respect? Hugbox away I guess.. shame is positive thing actially, if you want to interact with humans irl ya know smh. by randough @piefed.social reason: Needlessly mean
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Banned Jumi @lemmy.world from the community reason: Transphobia
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Banned WoodScientist @lemmy.world from the community reason: Ongoing gatekeeping
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Banned Draconic NEO @quokk.au Banned from the community reason: abuse
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Banned MentalEdge @sopuli.xyz from the community reason: Has posted sexually suggestive images of teen anime characters on multiple occasions.
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Removed Post Data Finds Republicans are Obsessed with Searching for Transgender Porn reason: Off topic, falls under reposting bigoted content, the last thing this community should be doing is making people feel more fetishized than theyre already made to feel
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Banned Zwiebel @feddit.org from the community reason: pedophilia
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Banned TheSaltyCracker @feddit.online Banned from the community reason: Transmed
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Banned TheSaltyCracker @feddit.online Banned from the community 5 months ago mod
Unlocked Post [CW: Mentions Suicide, Surgery regret] How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself? 5 months ago mod
Removed Comment Alright so here's why I think you're a troll:
Being post-op doesn't change shit for trans women when it comes to hook ups or even meeting people. Transphobes will do it regardless. Transphobes will see you as a man regardless. Everyone in the trans community is inescapably aware of this. People who are not transphobes will have no issue seeing you as a woman regardless of your equipment.
Trans people do not, under any circumstances, gatekeep when you feel like a "real woman" because bottom surgery is something utterly inaccessible to most.
The way you describe it skips over the part where actually getting bottom surgery is a long series of hoops to jump through including multiple different therapist letters where every single person everywhere along the way is going to double check with you that you really do want to go through with this. If you express even the slightest hesitation, they're going to tell you no. Someone who is actually unsure whether or not they want it is going to back out. No amount of peer pressure would ever be enough to get someone to go through with it which, again, that peer pressure won't exist because trans people will never tell you when you get to feel like a real woman. If you come into a space expressing that, it's up to you to say that not having bottom surgery is the reason for that feeling. Nobody else can ever tell you what to feel about it.
Lastly, the idea that you can no longer touch yourself after bottom surgery, jack off to porn, or feel yourself is absurd. You absolutely can, surgeons preserve the sexual function. Even if you went to the least reputable bottom surgeon there was, you wouldn't be saying the things you are in the way you are if you did. You'd be saying you regretted the surgeon you went to or that the results weren't what you wanted, not that you wanted the old equipment back as is. It would be couched in "well it was better than this because everything sucks for XYZ reason" where XYZ reason is none of the reasons you just gave. by boobs @lemmy.world reason: You can message mods if you suspect someone of being a troll or a fake account. This kind of public interrogation isn't acceptable here and interrupts the safety of this space for transfeminine people.
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Locked Post [CW: Mentions Suicide, Surgery regret] How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself? 5 months ago mod
Removed Comment I tried a packer and it wasn't very effective. Especially because of the aspects of the situation that bother me most. Having a bulge in my pants doesn't make me feel better.
Phalloplasty is out of the question, Insurance covered my vaginoplasy but they would never cover the Phallophasty and I couldn't afford it even if I sold everything I own. Plus I hear they aren't very good. I'll be stuck with a numb limp of meat that barely looks like a penis And I spent way too much time looking at Phallo results tying to give myself some hope about getting what I lost back but it'll never be the same again and that becomes more clear to me as each day goes by and I awake into the new nightmare that is real life. by MarthaPuppyGirl [She/Her] @programming.dev reason: It's not ok to talk about phallo that way
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Banned __反いじめ戦隊 @ani.social Banned from the community reason: transphobic spam
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Banned __反いじめ戦隊 @ani.social Banned from the community reason: transphobic spam
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Removed Comment [🔗](https://news.spreely.com/marty-makary-slams-transgender-medical-industry-demands-review/)
::: spoiler It's a trap!
Be sure to use a VPN if you will use this.
::: by __反いじめ戦隊 @ani.social Banned reason: Against the rules of the space, no reposting bigoted content
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Removed Post Kansas’ Anti-Trans Driver’s License Law Was Cruel Enough. This Detail Makes It So Much Worse. reason: Not transfem perspective, wrong community for this
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Locked Post Hi. Anyone have any info on DIY specific to the uk? 6 months ago mod
Unlocked Post Hi. Anyone have any info on DIY specific to the uk? 6 months ago mod
Locked Post Hi. Anyone have any info on DIY specific to the uk? 6 months ago mod
Locked Post Cis-female wanting to start HRT 6 months ago mod
Removed Post How can I help support someone who is sad/dysphoric about having lost all their hair reason: Troll
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Removed Post I like to apply lube like a condiment on a hotdog reason: No NSFW image posts please
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Unlocked Post Kamala Harris Says She Has “Concerns” About Trans Student Athletes 10 months ago mod
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Removed Post Transgender shooter epidemic: the numbers clearly indicate mental illness reason: Transphobic conspiracy
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Unlocked Post how do you answer "when was your last period" at the doctors? 1 year ago mod
Locked Post how do you answer "when was your last period" at the doctors? 1 year ago mod
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Removed Post Do trans women understand that they have a penis? reason: Transphobia
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Appointed Ada @lemmy.blahaj.zone as a mod to the community 3 years ago mod
Unfeatured Post New resources added to the sidebar. Please let me know of any others you believe should be listed and I will consider them. in community 3 years ago mod
Unfeatured Post The name of the community has been changed per the results of the poll, from here on out this community is the Transfem community! in community 
