Atilola's World

I am scared of you - Atilola Moronfolu

2023-04-24T11:03:00.005+01:00

When you meet someone for the first time, two things happen. It’s either they are interested in having a deeper relationship with you or they are not

Once they have determined that they are interested in you, they try to define you. This is not necessarily for any bad intentions, but their ability to define you helps them know how to relate with you

Many times, I’m engrossed in a conversation with people and their interest about me is heightened due to the trajectory or depth of the conversation and they cut it short and say “Wow, what state are you from?” Are you a Christian or a Muslim? Where did you school? What church do you attend?”

While these questions may seem innocent, they are not harmless

What is happening is that people are trying to define and label you so they can understand you better. However, due to the stereotypical nature of these questions, it is a very lazy way to try to understand people

When you answer such types of questions, it makes it easier for people to put a label on you and say “You schooled outside the country. No wonder you are so smart. You are Benin, no wonder you reason this way. You are Igbo, no wonder you like money.”

They are more comfortable looking at you from the perspective they have of people in your “category” before they met you. And this is dangerous because they rob themselves of getting to really know you.

Once you allow them define you within their own terms, every conversation you have with them henceforth will always be viewed through coloured lenses, and not by who truly are

You lose, they lose, because relationship becomes coloured, and there’s no unfiltered exchange of personalities

Whenever I encounter these situations, and people cut me short to find out what state I’m from, I immediately disarm them by saying “I’m Nigerian. I don’t do State of Origins” and no amount of persistent will make me budge

I call it a war on stereotypical labels. You bring your weapon, and I draw my shield out. You persist, by trying to penetrate my walls of defence, but I guard them with all I have. If I should ever let it down, I lose the battle. Once you get tired of penetrating, you back down and I win

After this battle, the only way this relationship can continue is for you to do the hard work to know who I really am.

However, it has been said that people fear what they do not understand. Once people are not able to define you, they are disarmed and get scared of you because they are at loss as to how to relate with you

At this point, you have two choices, to draw back from the relationship or invest time in knowing me for who I really am, no stereotypes no lenses. This is the only way you can correctly define me and have a win-win relationship with me.

FALSE MIRRORS - BY ATILOLA MORONFOLU

2023-02-15T12:56:00.001+00:00

High School Physics taught is that there are different kinds of mirrors. Plain Mirrors and False Mirrors. The false mirrors are the concave and convex mirrors, which give a false of reflection of your image.

If you ever have the misfortune of having a wrongly constructed mirror in your bedroom, like many people do, you will always have an issue with your image. These mirrors might be slightly concave or convex, but you will not suspect because they appear plane to you, especially since the distortion is not usually obvious

The implication of this is that you might be on a weight-loss journey, but you will always be discouraged because you can’t see any improvement when you look at the mirror. Ever heard of the saying “this mirror always makes me look fat”? Yes, it really does happen with false mirrors

We have badly constructed mirrors everywhere. One moment, you are at home, looking all curvy and toned, and you get to the gym, look in the mirror and you are plump and stout.

This is the same way many of us look into false mirrors when we want to see how our lives really look like. We get opinions of how we look from people who are by themselves distorted in their perspectives, and they reflect a wrong image of us to ourselves when they give us feedback. We take these things to heart and feel bad, not knowing that the mirror is false.

Some make us look too good to be true, like concave mirrors, and become sycophants, that we refuse to work on our weaknesses. Also, some constantly make us look so bad that it becomes impossible to take a quantum leap out of the cycle of condemnation

False mirrors are not completely useless. They are perfect for doing things like magnifying imperfections on our face, making a near object appear far or vice versa, and a thousand more uses. However, these are not the mirrors we should be looking at when we want to see our true reflections

In the same way, feedback is generally not bad. But they must be sieved and put in proper context. Feedback and opinions taken from a very wrong perspective actually have the ability to send you into a downward spiral.

Whenever we want to see who we really are, we have to get neutral opinion, the opinion of God’s word, what He says we really are. Anything apart from this will lead to nothing but distorted life view, and not propel us into the reality of what God wants for us.

My Tear-jerking speech to my five-year old - Atilola Moronfolu

2023-02-08T12:56:00.003+00:00

Now that you are five years old, you are now a big boy. You have to take more responsibilities for yourself. You will no longer watch TV on Saturday morning. You will assist Miss xxx in cleaning the house. You will clean every surface in the house with napkin, while she sweeps and mops
You now have to start washing plates. You will assist Miss xxx. She will wash plates while you rinse. You will have your own rinsing basin. After 4 months, you will switch to washing with sponge
You now have to start laying your bed yourself. Miss xxx will teach you how to lay your bed
You will also learn to fold your clothes yourself, and learn the right place to place the clothes
You have been cleaning up after yourself after eating in the past, but you must now clean up the table completely
You have 4 months to complete the task of learning how to wash yourself when you are done in the restroom
You will start bathing yourself. Miss xxx will only help you wash your back. This also applies to using lotion on your body and hair
You have been brushing yourself partly, but you have to start brushing the insides well. You will have no assistance soon"

Needless to say, my son was very excited to hear this speech, and no tears were jerked in the process of reading this speech

Will someone help me inform him that adulting is a scam.

Happy birthday Mr Pie Pie

My kids start doing chores from 13 months old, and we graduate the chores as they grow. If you are big on having your children learn to do house-chores early, you can copy my speech.

We will introduce cloth washing by 7 years old. My plan is to get them completely independent by 10 years old.

P.S: Don’t do this if you are not ready to follow through

What do you think? Long-term parents, how did you do it? Let newbie parents like us gain some sagacious wisdom from you

I’m waiting to hear from you in the comment section

Seven things to consider before Homeschooling

2022-09-13T15:31:00.001+01:00

Is Homeschooling for everyone? What are the pros and cons? Do the children really come out shy? Is it realistic? In this continuing conversation about our Homeschooling, I talk about seven important factors to consider before making the decision to Homeschool your child

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- How we started our Homeschooling journey

2022-09-06T15:27:00.003+01:00

We are currently homeschooling our boys, a journey we started over 2 years ago. In this episode, I talk about what precipitated our decision to Homeschool, and how we are doing it.

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Getting Pregnant immediately after Marriage. Is it adivisable?

2022-08-30T11:23:00.000+01:00

Many couples have the dream of bonding in their marriage before the start a family, but the women unexpectedly get pregnant immediately after marriage, even though the never planned for it. I also had an experience with this.

In this episode of Let's DO Life, I talk about how it happened, my reaction afterwards, and if we were able to ever recover and have our time together again.

It is real, honest, and truthful gist I give to you all

Please, watch, learn, enjoy, and drop your comments. Hit the subscribe button and the notification bell, so you can know when future episodes are released.

Are all Men are Scum or you just attract Scum?

2022-08-23T15:18:00.001+01:00

Ever since I have been a child, I have been hearing the same song of "all men are cheat, liars, dogs, etc. Every few years, the nomenclature changes, but the idea remains the same. This begs the question, is there some truth to this? Are all men really bad, leaving a few good ones that cannot go round? Are women really jezebels?

Why do some women enjoy their marriages and relationships while some others only meet the men who are scum?

In this insightful episode of Let's DO Life, I talk about how knowingly or unknowingly, we attract or repel certain kinds of people to ourselves, just by our expectations and standards. It is short, sharp, and straight to the point.

Please, watch, learn, enjoy, and drop your comments. Hit the subscribe button and the notification bell, so you can know when future episodes are released.

Is Matchmaking risky? How matchmaking worked for me in Marriage

2022-08-16T11:11:00.001+01:00

If you have heard about my marriage story, you will know that there are a lot of divine and interesting things about it, including the fact that I was matchmade.

I have always been open to matchmaking. I think it is a more interesting, direct, and less stress path to meeting a potential future partner.

Unfortunately, many people, especially women, are not as open to it because they feel is passes across the message of desperation. If you are having problem meeting and connecting with people, there is no shame in asking for help, as long as you are sincere with yourself.

In this video, I talk about important things to note if you are considering meeting people through matchmaking. It can be interesting, adrenaline-filled, but risky, if not done correctly, sincerely, and with the right intentions.

I have also interjected with some of my own personal experiences, both good and bad.

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Giving Birth in Canada (Part 3) | USA vs Canada. Which is better?

2022-08-09T11:07:00.002+01:00

In this last part of my Giving Birth in Canada series, I share with you the pros and cons of giving birth in Canada versus the USA.

If you want a child with foreign citizenship, and you are confused about the choices to make between these two countries, this video will help you get more clarification, and make your choice.

Get the points, weigh your options, and make your decisions.

I hope you learn a few things, and share with others who might need it.

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YOU LOOK LIKE A FEMINIST TO ME

2022-06-17T15:06:00.001+01:00

Source

There’s this new trend of people trying to distance themselves from feminism even though everything they stand for reeks of is from the feminism.

They start statements with things like “I’m not a feminist but...”

If you catch yourself saying this, you are most likely a feminist.

...And that is a good thing.

Contrary to what you might be thinking, feminism is not a bad movement. It’s not a man-bashing, bra-tearing, anger-manifesting, vile-spewing movement of women out to avenge their exes and fathers misbehavior on all men.

It’s because of feminism you as a woman can dare to dream of being anything and actually achieve it

It’s because of feminism you are being paid equally with your male counterparts

It’s because of feminism you are seeing the rise of women in the boardroom and striving to be like them

It’s because of feminism you are able to

run a business and actually keep the proceeds from it

It’s because of feminism you are able to drive a car and not require a male chaperone

You can’t be doing all these “feminist things” and deny being feminist

If you are a female reading this, there’s a high chance you are a feminist

If you are a male reading this, and your wife and daughters are enjoying these privileges, you are a feminist

I will not be ignorant to the fact that vile-spewing people have tried to hijack the feminist ideology, and made it what it’s not. They have made it seem like women are in competition with men, like both genders cannot work together. They have made it a man-bashing movement, which is not what it is. In reality, These are not actually feminists. They are called MISANDRISTS. They are easy to tell by their agenda

But whenever things get distorted in life, and confusion sets in, the right thing to do is go to the definition, root and history

Let me know what you think in the comment section.

From Yam Legs to Hot Legs – An Ugly Duckling Story

2022-05-16T11:02:00.000+01:00

As a young girl in Senior Secondary school, I was constantly body-shamed about my legs, especially by one boy in particular. I really don’t think he did it out of wickedness. I think it was out of ignorance of how the effect of his words could define the way I see myself and influence my self-esteem. You see, sometimes, words are like arrows shot way ahead of you. They have a way of going into your future to wait for you before the strike your bullseye. And that is when the rotten seed that had been planted form way back begins to take root and germinate.

I can’t count how many times I heard words like “see your yam legs”, “Isu”, “Yam ooo”, “Short and stout” “Muscle”.

I just eyed and ignored the perpetrator when those words were thrown at me, but of course, the roots had begun to form deep, even though the trees were still wearing harry potter’s invisibility cloak.

It didn’t help that I used to have really bowed legs when I was a baby. I’m talking really bowed that you could trace the letter O from it. Thankfully, my mother was wise enough to take me to the Orthopaedic Hospital in Igbobi to get it sorted. She used all her salary to buy a very expensive drug and the issue was sorted out in a matter of months.

The knowledge of my history with bow legs as a child and “yam” legs as a teenager made me so insecure about my legs that I decided never to expose my legs when I finished secondary school, where we had been forced to wear skirt.

And so, for the next four years of my life, you would never catch me wearing anything knee-length or above.

Sometime later, my mum bought me a very good-looking pair of knee length farmer shorts. I wore them to class one day and a few people commented on how I had nice legs. I accepted the compliments gracefully, but a bit sceptically.

I later examined my legs well, and was like “hmm, it seems my legs are not bad ooo”.

It was then I gradually gained the confidence to expose my leg. I started wearing knee lengths and above-the-knee dresses and shorts

But you see this insecurity, it is a bastard, I tell you. If you don’t stone it to death, burn and bury the ashes in the pit of hell, its seed will never die out and will continue to lurk around like a sneaky rent-owing tenant in an apartment it has been evicted from. It still waited for me into my thirties.

When I started working out, I stayed away from leg workout. I worked out every part of my body except from my knees below.

One day, I was having a conversation with my former instructor, and I asked him if it was compulsory for me to do leg workouts. He quickly pointed out to me the danger of neglecting “legs” while working all other parts.

I told him I didn’t want to do “legs” because I have “yams” and I don’t want to have more “yams”

He looked and me and said sternly, “They are not “yams”, they are called calves. You don’t know what you have. Women are killing themselves in the gym everyday to have calves. They are taking steroids, doing surgery, and lifting heavy weights. Calves are what is in vogue now. You have this naturally and you are despising it”

What an irony. Something I was shamed and insulted for is what everyone is dying to have now. This is the same way people were shamed for having big butts with words like “Idi nla, Idi rabata,” etc, but now some people are literally dying under the knife and risking their lives to get this booty.

Since the talk with my instructor, every atom of insecurity I had about my legs melted like ice cubes exposed under Gombe sun.

Home Workout versus Gym Workout - Which is better? Atilola Moronfolu

2022-04-12T11:00:00.001+01:00

As an unmarried lady, I did all my workouts at home, and they were sufficient in helping me maintain my fitness goals. After getting married, I got pregnant immediately and home workouts became harder, while trying to adjust to life as a new wife and potential mother. I resumed home workouts in my third trimester and stopped when my child was about three months old. The struggle was real.

I eventually decided to take the bull by the horn and register to join a gym when my son was 11 months old.

What I had not realized was that different phases of our lives required different workout modes. Switching to gym workout when I did was the best decision I made for myself. If I had been wiser, I would have switched earlier than I did and stopped struggling at home. Workout modes should be flexible while the workout itself is constant.

Since then, I have switched between home workout and gym workout depending on my seasons, and for the past year, I have employed a hybrid of the two. Because of this, I’m quite qualified to write about Home workout versus Gym workout

1. Expense

Home workout is less expensive than Gym workout. You don’t need to pay monthly subscription fees at home. Except you are buying your own heavy-duty equipment, Consider home workout if money is tight for you. Home workout wins in this one

2. Accountability

It’s harder to achieve accountability with home workout. No one is watching your every move or checking your results. If you don’t hit your fitness goals for 10 years, no one will know because no one even knows you are working out. If accountability is a factor for you, hit the gym right now. Gym workout wins in this one

3. Privacy

Repeat after me… “there’s no privacy in the gym.” I remember going to the gym for the first time, and it seemed the whole world was staring at me. Everyone sees you as you are - your curves, flaws, and falls. They see your folds and your imperfect body. To get great results in the gym, you will have to overcome whatever body-consciousness you might have and know that no one is silently judging or condemning you for your self-assumed imperfections. If you are a celebrity or well-known face, you might not feel comfortable at the gym, knowing every single eyeball will be on you. Home workout wins in this one

4. Mistakes and Corrections

The flipside of the above point is that since there’s no privacy in the gym, people can easily see when you are making a fool of yourself with your posture or equipment. And trust me, gym buddies are always eager to correct you and tell you how to do it right. No one will be happy to see you shatter your knees or injure your back. This ensures that you are safe and you get great results. Gym workout wins in this one

5. Return on Investment

There’s a seriousness that comes upon you when you spend your money to do something. This factor alone will get you to go to the gym and that’s something home workout doesn’t offer. When you think about the fact that you don’t want your gym subscription to go to waste, you will get off your butt, and move yourself to the gym even if you lack the motivation. This way, you get more results even in your low seasons. Gym workout wins in this one

6. Community

Home workout can be very lonely, especially if you are a communal person. You might get discouraged easily if you feel you are not hitting your goals, and be tempted to stop. Even when you are hitting your goals, you might not realize it because you underrate yourself, and there’s no third-party to give you positive feedback. I’m usually a loner at the gym, so this factor doesn’t bother me. But if community, groups, feedback and cheers are your thing, then the gym is better for you. Gym workout wins in this one

7. Motivation

Taking from the above point, there’s definitely more motivation at the gym. Even on your low days, there’s a resetting that happens in your brain when you get to the gym, see numerous equipment, and people working out and trying to hit their goals. This bypasses whatever might be ailing you, and then you get into beast mode. Fun fact, when I was pregnant with my second baby, I was sick in my first trimester, but it never showed whenever I got to the gym because my body just conforms and I begin vigorous workouts. As soon as I leave the gym, the pregnancy sickness returns. So, for motivation, Gym workout wins in this one

8. Classes

I don’t remember what my life was like before I discovered Gym classes. It must have been a dreary one, lol. Gym classes are one way of getting into the fitness game, especially if you are still struggling to get started. They are fun, motivational, communal, and push you to get results. Who doesn’t like some Zumba, salsa, and kickboxing with music? Unfortunately, you cannot get this delicious goodness from home workout. Gym workout wins in this one

9. Timing

It’s easier to time yourself in the gym than at home. You can put yourself on a routine such as “if I get to the gym by 7am, I can do 30 minutes strength workout, 30 minutes class, one-hour cardio, and leave the gym by 9am. This works for people who are time-conscious or need to get somewhere without worrying about whether they will still get results. It’s hard to get this with home workout with the same brutal efficiency because there’s a lot of varied experiences you are being subjected to in the home surrounding. Please note that if you are going to the gym to do other things like chat with friends, do business networking, sell your wares, look for a romantic relationship, and all those other reasons people join the gym apart from working out, this might not apply to you. But generally, when it comes to timing, Gym workout wins

10. Distraction

Taking from the above point, there’s more distraction at home. With kids, unseen responsibilities, and unplanned emergencies pulling you left, right and centre, it’s harder to get results at home if you are a family person. I always have to instruct my children’s nanny to keep them away from me when I want to workout because they always like to “workout with me” and draw me back. Of course, this doesn’t apply if you live alone, but your plumber can still be a source of distraction, lol. At the gym, I don’t even have my phone close to me, so there are no distractions that can invade my routine unless I intentionally bring my phone out. If you want to fend off distractions like removing flies from a garden party, gym workout is definitely your essential oil diffuser here. Gym workout wins in this one

11. Flexibility

There’s more flexibility at home workout. You can always stop to attend to an emergency issue right away or even stop your workout entirely and do something you think is more important. This is harder for you to achieve at the gym because you will need to take your body and mind out of the gym environment first before you can switch to other things. Before you get to attend to those things, some damages may have occurred. Home workout wins in this one

12. Wear and tear

If you work out at the gym too often, 7 days a week, week in, week out, you are going to sabotage your body and health. The body definitely needs time to heal after a brief season of workouts. It is in the healing process that it gains strength. Because home workouts are less strenuous, they don’t exact that same amount of pressure on the body as much as gym workouts do, and so the risk of wear are tear is lesser with home workouts. Home workout wins in this one

13. Results

If you are not a disciplined not self-motivated person, you won’t achieve much results with home workout, and that is if you have enough strength to even get up from your bed in the first place. Unless you are brutally-focused on your fitness goals and invest some massive amount of money in workout tools and accessories, you will never get the same level of results at home as you will get with home workouts. Even fitness experts and influencers invest heavily in their home appliances, and they still go to the gym from time to time. So, when it comes to maximum results, the gym is the best place for you. Gym workout wins in this one

Now, we have considered Home workout vs Gym workout in 13 different areas, and home workout emerged tops in just 4 of them. So, if privacy, expenses and flexibility is not a big deal to you, you definitely should be headed to the gym, especially if you want to see great results. Or you can just be like me and many other wise fitness enthusiasts, and do a hybrid of both, so you can get the best of both worlds.

The Obnoxious and Arrogant Job Applicant - Atilola Moronfolu

2022-04-05T11:00:00.001+01:00

I had an unbelievable laughable encounter with a job candidate now. Believe me, everything you read here is true. I can’t even make this story up

For sometime now, I’ve been looking for a dispatch rider for our business. And my husband sent me the contact for a candidate

I called him first thing this morning and we arranged to meet for an interview by 12 noon. When I didn’t hear from him by 12.33pm, I called him. From his voice, you could tell that he was still lying down when I said “where are you?” He replied saying “oh okay, I’m on my way”.

He finally got to the office and my first impression was that “this guy is a bit elderly.” He pulls his chair in front of me, and slumps backwards, leaning lazily into the chair as if he’s watching African magic in his living room.

I asked why he was late and he said he was not available. I was the one who said 12, not that he agreed to it.

Even though I knew right there and then that he wasn’t going to be hired cos attitude stank like rotten egg that had been forgotten in an unplugged fridge for 5 months, and the entire office could smell it from afar, I just had to carry on with it.

I asked him to tell me about himself. He started smiling and shrugging with “what can I say now? My name is bla bla bla, I come from bla bla bla. Or what else do you want me to say? I said what is your experience, where have you worked? Etc”

He said “I’ve worked in many places naa, or do you want me to start mentioning them? Or just the last one? I said yes. He mentioned the last one. I asked why he left and he said he traveled and when he came back, they had given the job to someone else.

The interview went on with his usual display of rotten fish attitude until I asked him when he got to Lagos. He said 1995. I asked what jobs he had been doing in the past. He said “security” and later he started as a driver.

And this is when he caused my jaw to drop. Without me asking him, he went on to tell me stories

“I was driving my boss around Yaba, when my phone rang out. And then she slapped me. I just came down and left her in the car. If not that she was pregnant, I would have slapped her back. In fact, I was close to slapping her but I considered the innocent baby inside her. Her husband later called me and begged me but I refused to go back. I told my fiancée what happened and she also wanted to go and beat the woman.”

In my mind, I was like whoever cursed this man from the village used a very potent jazz and his Baba Alawo (Native Doctor) deserved an award. "For you to be so arrogant to the level where your statement at a Job interview was how you wanted to slap your former boss at your age of 48, oga you are a lost cause." Every statement that came out of his mouth during the interview was a red flag, but this was the height

I managed to spend about 5 to 10 more minutes in the interview before telling him that we need someone to start working next week, and the sales offices will call him when we are ready.

When he left, all of us in the office laughed more out of Shock than anything. It was really good riddance. Kudos to him and his effort to get a jon.

Vain Body Journal: The Booty Enhancer and Her Clueless Instructor - Atilola Moronfolu

2022-03-29T11:00:00.001+01:00

At the gym this week, I was minding my business with my weights when I saw an “unseeable” sight.

It was a lady in her 30s into 40s who had obviously surgically enhanced her body, and was using a standing inclined squat machine, with wobbly knees, tilted forward, squatting straight on her toes, and her rear enhancements pushed backwards.

She had no stamina and you could see she was struggling while her supposed “instructor” stood by watching her, asking her to go.

I knew there and then that somebody’s knees were about to be shattered. If that lady did 50 of that, her knees were going to be toast. After contemplating whether I should “put mouth” in this matter, I couldn’t take it anymore.

I whispered to Mr Instuctor… she is going to ruin her knees and he was like “she will ruin it, shey”

It was then I knew that this guy was no instructor, but had the unfortunate advantage of having an athletic build. He didn’t know what he was doing and was a disaster in motion. It was so sad that Miss booty enhancer chose to look on the outside and decided this guy was going to be the one to make her body enhancement stand the test of time.

The thing about shattering your knees during workout is that your life will never remain the same. The workouts you will be able to do will be limited and life won’t be as sweet. You won’t be able to do some Dance steps, whether you are komole-ing in church or twerking it like it’s hot in the club. You won’t be able to climb the stairs without pain. You won’t be able to run, jog, squat or lunge. Even after surgery, you will never get back your knees again. To put it in summary, weak knees are any agile person’s nightmare.

Anyway, Mr instructor took the machine from her and tried to show her how to do it correctly. I was more pissed because he was doing it wrong. He was doing it exactly how she was doing it, and his knees were also tilting forward. I was hurt to my very chest but I kept quiet and faced my workout while they kept at the eyesore

While working out, I kept thinking about how numerous guys in the gym had helped me in the past when I was doing something wrong. How one saved me from hurting my back when I was doing deadlifts the wrong way, how one showed be the ropes when I was doing diagonal core twist the wrong way, etc. The truth is some of the good results I have achieved in my workout journey is because some people took the liberty to point me in the right direction when I was obviously missing it, even when I didn’t ask for their opinions

The issue here was that no one would want to tell the guy and the girl they were messing up because he was supposed to be her instructor and it might be touchy to point him out as a quack who didn’t know what he was doing.

Anyway, I finally succumbed to the voice in my head telling me to save this woman from the lifetime of regrets she would face with shattered knees if she carried on with this foolery for the next 30 minutes. I walked up to the guy and told him they were doing it wrong and showed them know to incline their bodies and their knees. He thanked me and they whispered one or two things to each other and left the machine for good.

At least, I’m happy I had done my duty to her knees. Hopefully he doesn’t end up damaging it with a more complicated one in another section of the gym

So tell me… should I have minded my business

The 5Rs Hair Care Masterclass

2020-10-29T10:00:00.001+00:00

Hello, how are you doing? How is your mental health? Hope you are calming down from the unrest? We understand that things might not completely get back to normal this year again, but we have no choice but to hope.

At African Naturalistas, we want to wrap up this year with The 5R Hair Care Masterclass. Many of us have been shaken, such that hair care is the last thing on our minds. But all in all, we must still move on and hope for the best.

The 5Rs Hair Care Masterclass is the ultimate masterclass you will need to tow your hair on a healthy path, especially as we approach a new year.

The 5Rs stand for Restart, Regrow, Rejuvenate, Retain, and Restore.

If you are looking for a fresh start in your hair care journey, it is time to Restart your hair
If you have suffered hair loss of any kind, it is time for you to Regrow your hair
If you are already on your journey to hair growth, but you hair is dull and flailing, it is time to Rejuvenate your hair
If your hair was once healthy, but something has gone wrong, and you can’t figure it out, it is time to Restore your hair
If you have grown your hair successfully, it is time for you to Retain your hair

The 5Rs Haircare Masterclass is for every woman with hair on her head. Whether your hair is relaxed, natural, short, long, curly, coily, healthy, damaged, No matter what category you fall under, the 5R Hair care masterclass is for you.

This masterclass is going to start your hair care journey afresh for the New Year.

Click here to register for the very early bird of the Masterclass

Free E-book: 10 Secrets of growing Long Hair by Atilola Moronfolu

2020-10-26T13:58:00.001+00:00

Are you one of those people who have tried to grow long and healthy hair without success? You keep hearing "all hair grow", but that statement has never manifested on your scalp. You know you are not sick, yet your hair has remained the same length for 10 years.

I have written a simple easy-to-read book, revealing the secrets of growing long hair. Contrary to what you might think, growing long hair is not difficult, but it has rules you must adhere to. If you do not adhere to these, you will just be pouring water into a basket, and all the time, effort and money spent on products will be a colossal waste of time.

10 Secrets of growing Long Hair is a free ebook for you to help you achieve your goal of healthy and long hair.

Click here to download your copy and thank me later.

Atilola

Certified Trichologist

Giving Birth in Canada (Part 2) | 17 things to know before you decide to give birth in Canada

2020-10-19T11:00:00.001+01:00

In this second part of my Giving Birth in Canada series, I share 17 things you need to know before you decide to give birth in Canada.

If I could get a kobo for every request/call I get concerning giving birth in Canada, I would be a billionaire by now. So this video came by popular demand. I talk about 17 things to know before deciding to give birth in Canada.

I hope you learn a few things, and share with others who might need it.

There are more things, which might be discussed in a future video, and based on request.

Please watch, hit the subscribe button and the notification bell, so you can know when future episodes are released.

Excuse Me, SARS - Atilola Moronfolu

2020-10-16T13:04:00.003+01:00

My name is Atilola and I’m a spoken word artist. I perform mostly in the corporate sector, NGO sector and international scenes. I’m not exactly what you will call an “angry poet” or “political poet”. I’m not a trend talker or crowd follower. But I am a human being, Nigerian, and mother to two boys who will be future men.

I was inspired to write this very short piece because of my son, Lyon, whose hair I plan to braid/lock. I don’t want him to go through what our young ones are going through today. I don’t want him to be wrongly profiled as a criminal because of his appearance.

I might not be able to take to the streets like other youths because of my family and work responsibilities, but I can sure speak for the upcoming generation with my art.

I hope this piece speaks to you, but most importantly, to the Nigerian police force and the federal government of Nigeria

Please watch, hit the subscribe button and the notification bell

Giving Birth in Canada (Part 1): How I got my Canadian Visa

2020-10-05T10:37:00.003+01:00

Ever since I arrived Nigeria with a Canadian citizen in my Kangaroo pouch, I have become a very reluctant "Canada Birth Consultant". People always call me to ask for advise and guidance.

The truth is I was never an expert cos it was my first time having anything to do with the Canadian Embassy. My experience was nothing straightforward, mentally stressful, mentally tasking, and spiritually intense.

This is the first part of my three-part "Giving Birth in Canada" series. In the second part, we talk about the things you must know when applying, and in the third, we talk about the pros and cons, when compared to giving birth in the US.

Please watch, hit the subscribe button and the notification bell, so you can know when future episodes are released.

Taking your Husband's Surname - What's the Fuss about?

2020-09-28T11:00:00.002+01:00

Some women are recently choosing to bear their maiden name, after marriage, and they are taking the flak for it.

Further discussions have revealed the people do not understand where the practice of taking a man's surname in some parts of the world came from, and when it started.

In this episode of Let's DO Life, we discuss this topic in detail, and talk about the sentiments behind this practice, if it's a sin, if it's cultural or even important.

Please pull out your chair, get your popcorn, because have fun and get schooled at the same time.

Please don't forget to subscribe, comment and give your feedback on my video

Should successful women attribute their success to their husbands?

2020-09-21T11:00:00.001+01:00

Hi guys. How are you all doing? The first episode of my YouTube show, let’s do life, is out.

Many successful women have been criticized in recent times about the trend of dedicating their success/achievements/awards to their spouses, when it was achieved by them.

The critics say it is the evidence of patriarchy still very present in our society, and the successful women are passing a wrong message to the younger generation of independent women

In this video, I talk about this topic from my perspective. I will like you to watch and weigh in. You can watch it below

Please don't forget to subscribe, comment and give your feedback on my video

Yayyy, I started my Youtube Program

2020-09-17T14:02:00.003+01:00

For a long time, the thought of starting my own Youtube Program (I can't say Channel, cos I already have one) always came across as stressful to me, cos my Youtuber friends always painted the whole process as stressful and time consuming. Time availability is already an issue for me, cos of my schedule. So in my mind, Youtube and I were never going to be friends, when it came to content creation

Earlier this year, I started taking my IG lives more serious, and my husband started working on our study (but we all know it's mine. Right? Lol). Then I started getting a strong leading to started my own show on Youtube.

That leading didn't disappear, like other "leadings." It only became stronger as time went on. Once the study became partially ready, I went ahead to purchase all my filmimg accessories, and enlisted a professional on fiver to design my Youtube intro.

And with that, Let's do life - with Atilola was birthed.

In this show, we’ll be covering a range of subject matters including marriage, art, love, relationships, health, fitness, business... all sprinkled with a little bit of controversy.

I’m going to be keeping it real, with discussions that are wholesome, funny, and uplifting at the same time.

Please subscribe to my YouTube channel here. And in the meantime, please watch the trailer below

How to get NAFDAC Approval for your products in 6 months

2020-09-14T12:54:00.000+01:00

I am very excited to serve you another dish of fresh goodness. I taught this before, 5 months ago. And by popular demand, I am teaching you again. Remember I told you last week that I am

I am serve you a dish of How to get NAFDAC approval for your cosmetics in 6 months or less.

One of the biggest hurdles any serious person in the small scale Cosmetic Industry in Nigeria has to face is getting their products approved by NAFDAC. It is a hurdle many fear to cross, while others totally bypass because they just see it as an impossible feat. By doing this, they unintentionally place a cap on their growth, and determine how far their business will be growing.

In this free lesson, I will be teaching you How to get your products approved by the almighty NAFDAC. It is a very enlightening session you do not want to miss, to elevate your cosmetic business to the next level.

If you have questions about NAFDAC, or tired of their frustration, then this video will make that a thing of the past. Click here to watch the FREE NAFDAC Class

My Online Course "Registration for Beyond Formulation" starts on...

2020-08-27T13:05:00.000+01:00

As you might already know, I have an online course, where I help small scale Cosmetic Businesses scale their cosmetic business from your kitchen to the marketplace.

We now know when the registration for Beyond Formulation is starting. We know...

when the registration will be open

when you will have the opportunity to take advantage of the early bird discount

when you will invest your money in a course that will revolutionalise your cosmetic business forever

when you will find the courage to look forward forever, and never look backwhen [You can add your own further advantage here]

That time is approaching, and it is drumroll...

September 21, 2020

The intensive online course that will scale your cosmetic business from your kitchen to the marketplace is starting on September 21, 2020, and we are excited. We can't wait to do magic to your cosmetic business.

Please start saving towards this, because we would really like to help you grow your cosmetic business. Nigerian businesses need to thrive, especially in this season.

Click here to join the waiting list, and get all updates about the goodness that this course offers. You don't want to miss the early bird discount.

Free Video - Pricing your Cosmetic Products for Maximum Profit

2020-08-19T11:00:00.002+01:00

One of the mistakes many small scale cosmetic businesses has to do with pricing cosmetic products appropriately. It is not enough to slam a price on a product because that is the cost at which your competitor is selling? Every cosmetic product needs to go through a pricing process before reaching its cost.

I have created a free video teaching to solve whatever problems of pricing you might be having. In this four-part video series, I will take you through a 10 step process to pricing your cosmetics products. The lessons you will take from this will ensure you make maximum profit from your cosmetic business, and you never run at a loss

Get your pen and journals out, and start taking notes. Your cosmetic business is about to move to the next level. Click here to start watching

In the meantime, I have a free gift for you, it is a Free Cosmetic Selling Guide that will help you make better decisions in your business. Click here to get it.