Pollinator on dahlia

Yesterday afternoon, there was a partial solar eclipse that J and I viewed from our backyard. Whereas Europe saw a full eclipse, here in the northeast coverage was minor: just a slim sliver nibbled out of the sun.

Budding zinnia

What amazes me about eclipses is their predictability. Astronomers say that a certain percent of the sun or moon will be covered on a certain date at a certain time, and when you look up at that time on that date, you see exactly what was predicted.

I know, intellectually, that eclipses aren’t difficult to predict: they are a simple matter of planetary orbits and trajectories, both of which are known phenomena. Still, I always have an initial gasp of surprise when I put on eclipse glasses and look up: yes! There it is! Just as expected!

Strawflower

The wonder, in other words, isn’t so much the novelty as the reliability: here is a thing just as it is supposed to be. It is the wonder of a new parent inspecting a newborn child and being awed at the sight of ten miraculous fingers and ten miraculous toes.

After yesterday’s eclipse, I went to the Garden at Elm Bank to walk the labyrinth and see what’s blooming. Among the usual August goldenrod and sunflowers was a large stand of bull thistles gone to seed. As soon as I saw the fluffy heads of thistle, I thought “There should be goldfinches eating those seeds and gathering thistledown for their nests.” And immediately after I thought that, a male goldfinch twittered into view, just as expected.

Goldfinch on thistle

CLICK HERE to see more photos from yesterday’s trip to the Garden at Elm Bank. Enjoy!

Crabapples

Time is always moving. Our days pile upon our past–this year follows last year, which followed the year before–and our lives layer upon the people who preceded us, our collective experience creating an archeology of eras.

Rose is rose

I’m currently reading Maggie O’Farrell’s Land, which reminds me of Daniel Mason’s North Woods, which I read earlier this year. Both novels focus on a specific place–for O’Farrell, a holy well in rural Ireland; for Mason, a cabin-turned-homestead in the woods of New England–to explore the history (human and otherwise) that happened there.

Both novels suggest the land remembers, and so do the ghosts that haunt it. Only humans are so short-sighted, egotistical, or stupid to think theirs are the first stories to happen here, when all they are is the most recent, for now.

Seated Lady, by Leo Sewell

Today I read a New York Times opinion piece by Alice Lassman titled “A.I. Will Affect Your Social Life. Yes, Yours.” The article describes the way an increasing number of young people turn to AI chatbots for companionship, advice, and other personal support. Lassman argues that even if you don’t use AI chatbots this way, the folks who do are going to interact with you differently.

Anyone of a certain age–that is, anyone who grew up before the existence, much less ubiquity, of AI chatbots–will probably have the same initial response to Lassman’s article, bewailing the loss of human interaction when (presumably younger) people turn to AI to process their emotions rather than talking to a friend, family member, or therapist. What is lost, we might wonder, when an entire generation grows up with the digital equivalent of an imaginary friend: someone who is always there, always willing to listen, and always devoid of their own problems and needs?

The result, we oldsters might argue, will be a generation of selfish and solipsistic loners who can’t (or won’t) risk the messy give-and-take of interpersonal relationships. When your friends are busy, preoccupied with their own problems, or simply sick and tired of you rehashing the same old whiny rants, your AI best friend will always be there.

While I share the concerns Lassman raises, reality is more complicated than my initial gut reaction might suggest. Long before there were AI chatbots, some of us used old-fashioned pen-on-paper writing to process our emotions. I’ve always said I keep a journal because the page always listens, which is true of AI chatbots as well.

One big difference between the two is that chatbots talk back–my paper journal doesn’t–but if we are worried that young people will become too solitary by working out their feelings on their own, I have to admit that “talking” to my journal has been a helpful coping strategy that costs far less than therapy.

The jury is still out when it comes to the long-term effects of AI on human relationships. Is it possible to become too fixated on digital “friends” to the exclusion of human relationships? Of course. Nobody would argue that replacing human friends with chatbots is a good idea.

Still, I think the kneejerk horror and pearl-clutching of some older folks isn’t helpful. Every new technology–writing, the printing press, radio, movies, television, video games, and the Internet itself–is initially greeted with concern: in the 18th- and 19th-century, for example, social commentators worried that young people would be harmed by spending too much time reading novels.

Instead of condemning or stigmatizing personal uses of AI, older folks might be better served to ask why so many young people find themselves unburdening to chatbots. Asking with an open mind and then actually listening to the answer is exactly the kind of human (and humane) interaction we presumably want to encourage.

Partly cloudy

Today’s jury duty lasted one half day. After spending the morning in the jury pool, my fellow would-be-jurors and I were sent home at lunch time, the presiding judge explaining that the criminal case we’d been called for had been settled, with the defendant pleading guilty and accepting jail time for repeated DUIs.

Park

Of the three times I’ve been summoned for jury duty, this is the second time I’ve been sent home midday. (Interesting enough, the one trial I served on was also a DUI case.) According to Massachusetts’ policy of one day, one trial, sitting in a jury pool fulfills your duty to serve even if you aren’t actually impaneled on a jury. Simply showing up and being ready counts as serving.

Pond

Before the presiding judge dismissed us, he explained that having potential jurors present often nudges defendants to settle with prosecutors or plaintiffs. The threat of a trial, in other words, sometimes nudges parties to settle out-of-court. Although it might seem frustratingly unproductive to summon a group of people to simply sit in a room reading, working on laptops, or scrolling on their phones, courts don’t know how many jurors–or, more importantly, which jurors–they’ll need until a group of random people gathers in person to either wait or go through the jury selection process.

Three chairs

So after all the anxious energy I spent packing my jury bag with a loaded Kindle, puzzles, and So Many Snacks, I spent only a few hours reading and checking email before I returned home, my civic duty done for another three years. Although I didn’t actually eat any of my snacks, it was reassuring to know I had them just in case I needed them. With both potential snacks and potential jurors, they also serve who only stand and wait.

Pollinating

Tomorrow I have jury duty. Because this is the third time I’ve been summoned, I know the greatest determinant of how well your jury duty goes isn’t what you do at the courthouse but what you bring to the courthouse.

The first time I was called for jury duty, I spent the morning in the jury pool, then I was dismissed at lunch time after they’d impaneled all the jurors they needed that day. The second time I was summoned, I was impaneled on a jury for a DUI trial that lasted several days.

Whether you sit in the jury pool or sit on a jury, jury duty involves a lot of sitting. You wait to be called, you wait to be chosen, and you wait to be dismissed. Courthouse staff try to make this waiting as pleasant as possible–if there’s something you desperately need, there’s probably a bailiff who will be tasked with fetching that thing–but at the end of the day, you’re spending hours in the bureaucratic equivalent of a waiting room.

Because of this, as soon as I got this current summons, I started making a list of Things To Bring to Jury Duty. Ahead of tomorrow, I’ve packed my jury summons and ID, a hoodie in case the courthouse is aggressively air-conditioned, and a water bottle. I have a charged and loaded Kindle, a spiral-bound book of crossword and word-search puzzles, and a notebook, pens, and pencils.

I packed chewing gum, mints, and a quart ziplock bag full of snacks, including granola bars, cookies, and chocolate. I have ear plugs in case there is a noisy TV, a headset in case I want to listen to music, and a phone charger in case my battery gets low.

Since I might be sitting in a courthouse all day, I packed my inhaler, bandaids, Pepto-Bismol tablets, extra allergy meds, and a red, white, and blue assortment of over-the-counter painkillers: ibuprofen, acetaminophen, and naproxen. And just to be safe, I packed COVID masks, wet wipes, and tissues, because you never know what you might need when stuck in a room with random strangers.

Reviewing the list of things I’m carrying into tomorrow’s jury duty, I realize I sound like a mom packing for a child’s first sleep-away camp, minus the bug spray and sunscreen. Spending the day waiting for a jury assignment that might never happen is bad enough. Having everything you need for any possible eventuality makes this uncertainty a bit less maddening.

Fence flowers

I recently read Michael Cunningham’s Unsayable: A Life in Writing, a memoir of the author’s coming-of-age as a writer: a portrait, you might say, of the writer as a young man.

Barberries

Everyone comes of age, but writers are a different breed. Only writers have the audacity to think their thoughts, experiences, and obsessions are worth both saying and sharing. Everyone lives, but writers live twice, willingly accepting the added burden of trying to record their ideas for others’ consideration. Everyone lives, but not everyone steps outside their shoes in an attempt to figure out and then explain what that life means.

In Cunningham’s case, there is the additional wrinkle of identity. What is it like to grow up as a gay boy with a straight best friend: how much of that relationship was unsayable at the time and able to be articulated only decades later, through the prism of time?

Hydrangeas

On the whole, I found Unsayable to be uneven: brilliant and breathtaking in parts, and more mundane in others. The book is both a memoir of Cunningham’s early years–how he became both the person and the writer he currently is–and a book on craft, with Cunningham reflecting on his experience as a creative writing professor and sharing passages from his favorite writers, including Toni Morrison, Walt Whitman, and Virginia Woolf.

I sometimes struggled to bridge the parts of the book that were mostly memoir and the parts that were more focused on craft. I think I would have enjoyed the book more if it were only a memoir: the crafty bits felt intrusive, as if Cunningham-the-teacher felt he should add some useful lessons to what Cunningham-the-memoirist was saying.

Green holly berries

Cunningham is a skilled novelist: The Hours left me breathless because Cunningham convincingly captured the voices of his female characters as well as the narrative style of Virginia Woolf. But when it comes to the teaching of writing, I would have preferred for Cunningham to show, not tell. A writer can tell you how to write, and he can describe how he and his favorite authors write…or he can simply show his truth and let that be lesson enough.

Pokeweed

Yesterday morning I gave blood at my local library. The young man who checked me in was harried: they had booked all their appointment times but had only three workers to tend to everyone. When I checked in, the volunteer on desk duty said my appointment would take 45 minutes because of the backlog, but this was fine since I’d brought my Kindle and had allocated an hour for the process.

Pokeweed

Yesterday was (only) my second time giving blood, and my first time donating with the Red Cross. Whereas I gave my first donation reclining in a bus with my feet up, yesterday they had me lie flat on my back, with one arm hanging off the gurney. Because I was lying down, I couldn’t see the needle prick, so there was no need for me to look away.

Having long practice with meditation helps when you give blood: instead of sitting on a cushion gazing lightly at the floor, you lie on your back and gaze lightly at the ceiling. You follow your breath in and out as you squeeze and release your fist: breathe in, squeeze; breathe out, release.

Pokeweed

I’m told I have good veins, and my heart rate, blood pressure, and hemoglobin levels are good. Although I’d avoided giving blood for years because I was afraid the process would make me light-headed, both times I’ve donated I’ve felt fine and have been able to carry on the rest of my day without problem.

Now that I’ve (finally) tried it, I find giving blood to be an easy way to help. Just lie still for a while, then eat cookies.

Raindrops on spirea

This morning, I heard a pileated woodpecker calling from the trees in somebody else’s backyard. Pileated woodpeckers are crow-sized birds with flashy, Woody Woodpecker crests. I think of pileateds as being deep forest birds, not something I’d hear from my suburban porch while tying my shoes before running errands, but there I was, car keys in hand, listening to a pileated’s crazy cackle.

Decades ago when I lived in Hillsboro, NH with my ex-husband, we had pileated woodpeckers in our front yard, which was fringed with tall pines. When we sold that house, downsized, and moved to an apartment in Keene the year before we eventually divorced, I mourned the loss of those birds.

Years ago, J and I drove by that old house, which he had never seen and I had never revisited. As I pointed to the house that had once been mine, I was heartbroken to see the new owners had cleared the pines in the front yard, leaving a barren patch of stumps and sticks where trees once stood.

I’m sure the pileated woodpeckers that used to live in “my” trees simply relocated to the state forest across the street, and I’m sure their descendants still live there. Even so, it was a quiet comfort to realize I still live near pileated woodpeckers, even if they only occasionally pass through.

Beside still water

Yesterday I took a walk around the pond at Rock House Reservation in West Brookfield, MA. Rock House offers lovely strolls on well-marked trails, so I try to visit at least once every summer.

Moshup's Hand

This year, there is a site-specific installation by Aquinnah Wampanoag artist Ella Mahoney atop the “Rock House” that gives the property its name. Titled Moshup’s Hand after a giant from Wampanoag mythology who shaped the geography of New England and taught Native communities how to hunt and fish, the installation consists of free-flowing rings of blue silk printed with dream-like shapes.

Flowing circles

Unadorned, the “house” at Rock House is a narrow cleft between two towering rock outcrops that in theory provide shelter from the elements. To my eye a cleft between rocks is more a passage than a dwelling: a place to pass through, not stay. Whether you pass through or stop to linger, this is a picturesque spot, so it is a perfect place for a flowing, ethereal work that looks like a blue frisbee, spaceship, or jellyfish, depending on your mood or inclination.

Above

I’m told that if you view Moshup’s Hand from above, you can see a wire-framed hand that is touching the shimmering circles below. Is the hand bestowing blessings that flutter down from above, or is it rippling the surface of an already-blessed ether?

Above

Having viewed the installation from below, I’m not clear on the mythological particulars. When I hike, I tend to look down rather than up: down to guide my next footstep, and down to look for flowers, ferns, and fungi.

Fungus & fern

Moshup’s Hand encouraged me to slow down and look up, as the fluttering fabric adds a pop of color and movement to an already impressive rockface.

CLICK HERE to see more photos from yesterday’s visit to Rock House Reservation. Enjoy!

Lotus flower, by Daina Shobrys

Today while cleaning out a backlog of emails, I stumbled upon a a New York Times opinion piece by S.J. Murray suggesting the ancient Roman philosopher Seneca offered a solution to our modern attention crisis. Instead of being overwhelmed by the flood of ideas presented in the papyrus scrolls that were becoming increasingly prevalent, Seneca thought people should deeply ponder one idea a day.

Duck, by Leo Sewell

I chuckled at the image of being overwhelmed by papyrus scrolls: what, I wondered, would Seneca do with today’s endless scroll of social media and other online apps? Whichever kind of scrolling we’re distracted by, however, the solution seems to be the same. Instead of being swept away by a tidal wave of Everyone Else’s Opinions, hold onto the life preserver of one idea considered at length.

Murray gives an example from classic literature. Considering the end of Tolstoy’s “The Death of Ivan Ilyich,” where Ilyich realizes on his deathbed he’s wasted his life chasing things that ultimately don’t matter, Murray spent a day considering whether he was prioritizing friendship, love, and purpose. A question that might be included on a study guide or book discussion became something Murray pondered over his morning coffee, afternoon coffee break, and evening dogwalk.

Geranium by Daina Shobrys

We’ve all probably had individual instances where a persistent question or problem has occupied us intermittently throughout the day: should I get that lump looked at, should I buy the Honda or the Toyota, or what should I have for dinner? What Murray is suggesting, however, is something deeper and more philosophical: how might we pacify our restless minds with something truly worth chewing on?

My first reaction to Murray’s suggestion came from a place of frustration: where and when, exactly, am I supposed to come up with a big idea every morning? Ironically, I found myself wondering whether there’s an app for that: surely someone has compiled a list of philosophically profound questions to ponder.

Just Sitting, by Linda Hoffman

The fact that my first reaction to a simple suggestion was a kind of overwhelm–where am I supposed to find new ideas every day–is itself suggestive. How busy and overburdened must we be if a suggestion to Think About One Thing feels impossibly difficult?

When screens of all sizes bombard you with an endless chatter of superficialities, focusing on one big idea feels difficult. But maybe that is exactly where a modern-day Seneca would start. In a world that constantly offers So Many Ideas, why is it so difficult to find One Idea that matters?

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