Continuing the theme of reading and writing with AI, I really want to share the following exchange which I had with Chat. I’ve been reading an excellent book on Narcissism (Breaking the Mirror: Overcoming Narcissism by Norman Goldwasser) but I realized that what I was missing was a discussion of now narcissism operates in the public sphere as well. I don’t think this is just me trying to be clever. I genuinely believe that discussions that link the public and the private broaden our understanding of both.
So I’ll start with my prompt and then Chat’s response. This was in the context of research into narcissism and leaders.
Pete: Please comment on the appeal of Zohran Mamdani and Jacinda Ardern (two political figures I admire) to their electorates. I know that Ardern suffered because of the Covid restrictions in New Zealand but both seem to have a broad appeal – as does Obama – which I think reflects back to voters in a good way. Discuss.
Chat: What is interesting about figures such as Jacinda Ardern, Barack Obama and Zohran Mamdani is that they tend to function as what one might call aspirational mirrors rather than grievance mirrors.
That distinction matters enormously.
Many destructive political leaders mirror fear, humiliation, resentment, wounded identity, or fantasies of domination. Their emotional energy comes from amplifying division and offering psychological protection against perceived enemies. They tell electorates: you are under attack; your humiliation is intolerable; I alone can restore your greatness.
By contrast, leaders such as Ardern or Obama often mirror qualities that people want to believe about themselves at their best:
- decency,
- pluralism,
- intelligence,
- empathy,
- restraint,
- cosmopolitanism,
- inclusiveness,
- emotional maturity,
- and dignity under pressure.
They offer electorates a more generous image of themselves.
This partly explains the emotional response they evoke. Supporters often experience them not simply as competent administrators but as symbolic reassurance that politics itself can still be humane.
Take Jacinda Ardern. Her international reputation was shaped especially by moments of emotional containment and moral symbolism:
- her response to the Christchurch mosque shootings,
- her communication style during the COVID-19 pandemic,
- and her ability to project warmth without appearing weak.
After the Christchurch attacks, the image of Ardern wearing a headscarf while consoling Muslim families became globally iconic. Critics sometimes dismissed such gestures as symbolic politics, but symbols matter deeply in democratic life. What she mirrored back to New Zealanders was not vengeance or civilisational panic but compassion and collective solidarity.
In psychological terms, she modelled emotional regulation rather than emotional contagion.
That said, your observation about COVID is important because it reveals the limits — and dangers — of positive political mirroring. During crises, even admired leaders can become vessels for public frustration. New Zealand’s strict pandemic restrictions initially strengthened Ardern’s image as a protective and competent leader. But prolonged restriction eventually produced fatigue, resentment, economic strain, and backlash.
This reveals something fundamental about democratic psychology: electorates often want leaders who are emotionally containing until containment itself begins to feel restrictive. The “good parent” image can gradually flip into accusations of paternalism or overreach.
Similarly, Barack Obama functioned as an aspirational mirror in a particularly powerful way because he appeared to embody reconciliation between opposites:
- intellectualism and charisma,
- calmness and inspiration,
- patriotism and cosmopolitanism,
- racial breakthrough and national unity.
His famous rhetoric — “hope,” “yes we can,” the insistence that America was larger than its divisions — reflected back an idealised vision of the American self. Supporters often experienced Obama not merely as a politician but as evidence that the country could transcend some of its historical ugliness.
But this too generated backlash.
Aspirational mirrors can provoke intense hostility precisely because they expose unresolved anxieties within the culture. Obama’s composure and symbolism activated not only admiration but also racial resentment, conspiracy thinking, and identity panic in parts of the electorate. The leader becomes a screen onto which societies project both hopes and fears.
That is one reason highly symbolic leaders often become strangely overinvested with emotional meaning. People are not reacting only to policy. They are reacting to what the figure psychologically represents.
With Zohran Mamdani, the dynamic is somewhat different because he represents a younger and more overtly ideological generation of politics. Part of his appeal lies in authenticity and fluency within digital political culture. He appears emotionally legible to younger voters in a media environment saturated with cynicism and branding.
His supporters often see him as mirroring:
- moral clarity,
- multicultural urban identity,
- economic fairness,
- generational frustration,
- and openness to structural critique.
In other words, he reflects a desire among many younger voters for politics that feels ethically animated rather than managerial or technocratic.
However, there is always a tension in this style of politics between moral seriousness and performative politics. Social media rewards symbolic positioning and emotionally resonant messaging, which can sometimes flatten complexity. The challenge for leaders emerging from digital political culture is whether they can sustain governing coalitions once symbolic enthusiasm encounters institutional compromise.
That challenge applies to almost all charismatic political figures.
The deeper issue, though, is your intuition that some leaders reflect back healthier aspects of collective identity than others. I think that intuition is largely correct. Political leadership is never only administrative; it is also emotional and symbolic. Leaders implicitly answer the question:
“What kind of people are we?”
Some answer:
“We are victims under siege.”
Others answer:
“We are superior to others.”
Others answer:
“We are capable of generosity, coexistence, and democratic maturity.”
The healthiest democratic mirrors probably do several things simultaneously:
- they enlarge rather than narrow the electorate’s moral imagination;
- they reduce panic rather than intensify it;
- they encourage citizenship rather than fandom;
- they tolerate criticism without framing it as betrayal;
- and they project confidence without requiring constant adoration.
That last point is crucial.
Healthy leaders do not need the public to disappear into them psychologically. They do not demand endless mirroring. They can withstand disagreement, satire, institutional limits, and ambiguity without collapsing into rage or grandiosity.
In psychoanalytic terms, one could say that mature democratic leadership requires a relatively secure sense of self. Leaders who are internally stable are less likely to require continual emotional feeding from the crowd.
And perhaps that is why figures like Ardern and Obama often felt different to supporters. Even critics frequently acknowledged that they did not seem psychologically ravenous. Their political style was not organised around humiliation, vengeance, or perpetual narcissistic injury.
Whether electorates consistently reward that kind of leadership over time is another question entirely.
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